Re: MS Patient Faces Hearing for Medical Marijuana
Sylv wrote:
> We had a young woman writing here who died of MS at age 36. Remember
> Julie, aka JD Gargoyle? She just stopped breathing. Just stopped.
>
> Quite a loss; I still miss her to this day. Damn this disease.
hi Sylvia,
yes, i remember Julie very well. also remembered how her death promtped
a minor outcry from other posters, when Judith told us at ASMS about
it.."M.S. is not fatal, so what did she REALLY die from?" and such.
at the time, i was blown away by how *rude* it was -- to get froggy at
people who'd been close friends with Julie for years and who were
grieving her loss -- but after a while, i decided the posts were from
people who were frightened, and fear often brings thoughtlessness with
it.
see, i do think the best way to address this kind of reaction is to
tell newly-diagnosed folks the TRUTH, that you CAN'T predict your own
disease course by looking the courses others' disease follows. don't
look at other folks wiht M.S. and think "that's my future" -- it may
be, or it may not be, and even if it is, your own reactions to
increasing disability will differ substantially, depending on the
individual. also, i many cases, it seems that the disability does creep
up slowly enough to give you more time to sort of ease into it -- not
that it's easy, but we tend to start adapting in small ways early on,
if we're both fortunate enough and committed enough, it can help in the
move from smaller things done to make the day easier, to larger things
done to make the day (in some cases) possible to spend out of bed,
awake, and in the groove (so to speak!).
there's *so* much variety among us, sub-types of M.S., symptoms,
progression, what works and what doesn't -- there's just no way to
predict what will work for who, for how long, right after diagnosis,
and no one-size-fits-all ways of dealing with the whole concept, and
its various realities.
don't be scared by people who aer very disabled by M.S. -- they're not
'your future,' they're other people with a chronic incureable disease,
and they *are* people, not scary objects thrown in your path to freak
you out! don't spend all your time and energy stressing and worrying
about what might happen. you ['might' walk out the door and get mowed
down by a bus -- does that mean you should never walk out the door?
also, the other side of the coin: don't be intimidated by people with
M.S. who are out there climbing Mount Everest and running marathons,
LOL!
those are the 2 extremes that the M.S. Society itself likes to
showcase, it seems to me, based o nthe aticles in the M.S. rags i get
and the seminars i'm invited to -- Super Crips and Saintly Crips.
either the folks in "Inside M.S." and its ilk are completely unaffected
by their M.S., have high-powered 6-figure-salary jobs, do white water
kayaking for fun, while completing their PhDs and raising families; OR,
they've been bed-ridden for 20 years, but have incredibly positive
attitudes, spout platitudes at the drop of a stent, and (this is the
real 'must have') volunteer for their local Society chapter for like 60
hours a week. and they frequenty say idiotic things like "M.S. is a
gift." Aleph Resh Gimel Heh! (ARGH -- hee, i don't think it would
actually spell a real word!)
look at your own symptoms, speak with your own doctor, talk to your own
family -- take care of your own biz, instead of worrying about 'when'
you'll be in a chair, or getting freaked out by what M.S. does to other
people.
oh heyk, i don't think i mentioned -- i know some of y'all remember
when the M.S. group decided the SP folks were too scary, and became an
RRMS-Only Group. the former SP members *did* get another group
going..BUT..having been subject to bigotry by others with M.S.
themselves, we took a vote and the majority decided *not* to make it sn
SPMS-specific group after all, so now it's an 'all are welcome' group.
hee hee -- it's held every weekend at the Malcolm X Library in Encanto,
if anyone in the aea is reading and wants to attend.
always reminds me of Chris Rock's routine, where he said if ther's
anything named after Martin Luther King, you know it's a black
neighborhood -- LOL, LOL, we've got MLK, Jr., also Malcolm X, and even
the Toussaint L'Overture Teen Center! oh, man, I *do* get the biggest
giggle-fits, thinking of the folks who drove 20 miles because they were
afraid to leave their cars in the parking lot of an Af-Am Church during
the group -- ROTFL, they're gonna just *love* the Malcolm X Memorial
Library, i imagine!!! }:D
anyway, it's good to 'see' you Sylvia! :->
RD
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