In article <pQV7e.12936$Zn3.7247@trnddc02>, De Roberts
<deroberts2@verizon.net> writes
>
>"Martin Swain" <martin.swain@shaw.ca> wrote in message
>news:jbR7e.31963$yV3.12603@clgrps12.. 
>
>In other words blame the victim.  If a child is molested it's the parents
>fault, if a woman is raped it's her fault.  A friend of my son's found out
>when she was 13 that her dad had been drugging her friends when they came
>for a sleep over and videotaping himself molesting them.  She found the
>tapes and turned them over to the police.  Her parents were divorced and he
r
>mom lived in another state.  No one had a clue this guy was a pedophile.  H
e
>was an upstanding citizen and noone gave it a second thought to let their
>daughters sleep over his house.  Now the daughter has death threats against
>her from her own dad's family because even though they can't deny the
>video's they say she shouldn't have turned her own dad in. She can never
>return to that state for fear of her life and her dad is in prison.  What d
o
>you do as a parent?  How do you tell if your kids bestfriends parent is a
>pervert?
>
>De
>
>

You cant that's the problem because so many of them do fit into normal
society and only something like a child talking can bring it out into
the open.
I am truly sorry for the daughter it must have been a terrible shock and
then to have all the hatred poured onto her by her fathers family must
make it ten times worse.


I know a lot of men who don't want to talk or even think about
pedophilia its something that really frightens them, a survey of adult
males found that 25% would get an erection if suddenly faced with a nude
picture of a girl who was below legal age.. that's not unusual or a
sign that 25% of the men in the world are pedophiles, its simply their
bodies getting aroused by what seems to be an available female. Its a
physical arousal.

For pedophiles its in the mind not the body, and their is a huge
difference. Only a tiny percentage of men would actually go on from that
physical arousal to want to actually abuse..

I know from talking to men including my husband that especially when
your young such a physical arousal can come at the most embarrassing and
inopportune moments. It must be a pig to live with. And with a man its
more likely to be obvious.
I think men who might have been caught out by this physical arousal
often wonder or are scared they might be pedophiles when in fact they
are no such thing.

For a man to go on from admiring and perhaps physically being attracted
to a girl to actually abusing them is fortunately very rare.




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