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query - handshakes?

Chaos Hill

2004-11-03, 7:12 pm

Hello all,
hope you are all doing well - so many posts to catch up on...

have been away for a few weeks and had a wonderful time - only a few minor
flares.
however - while meeting so many new people I discovered that I need to learn
to tactfully avoid the custom of handshakes - it's quite painful most of the
time, not unlike having your hands stpped on...

any words of wisdom?
thanks
Leslie

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Discombobulated Thoughts Of An Adelpated Mind

Cindy

2004-11-05, 11:09 am

Leslie, You might reach out with your left hand and grab their wrist,
followed by putting your right hand on their wrist also... and give a gentle
squeeze...Just a suggestion...
Hugs Cindy
"Chaos Hill" <mrsmugly@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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> Hello all,
> hope you are all doing well - so many posts to catch up on...
>
> have been away for a few weeks and had a wonderful time - only a few minor
> flares.
> however - while meeting so many new people I discovered that I need to
> learn to tactfully avoid the custom of handshakes - it's quite painful
> most of the time, not unlike having your hands stpped on...
>
> any words of wisdom?
> thanks
> Leslie
>
> --
> Discombobulated Thoughts Of An Adelpated Mind
>

herbwormwood

2004-11-05, 7:14 pm

On Fri, 5 Nov 2004 15:06:00 +0000, Cindy wrote
(in article <sFMid.16206$bP2.15705@newssvr12.news.prodigy.com> ):

> Leslie, You might reach out with your left hand and grab their wrist,
> followed by putting your right hand on their wrist also... and give a gentle
> squeeze...Just a suggestion...

Yu also might want to have your hands full at the time, hold something which
is easy to carry but that you could not conveniently put down. Do the
greeting wit™ a smile and hello instead, as long as you look friendly most
people (here in UK) don't seem to mind about handshakes!
> Hugs Cindy
> "Chaos Hill" <mrsmugly@hotmail.com> wrote in message
> news:AqydnQDOd5gh5hTcRVn-hg@centurytel.net...
>
>

Bruce

2004-11-05, 7:14 pm

> >> hope you are all doing well - so many posts to catch up on...[vbcol=seagreen]
minor[vbcol=seagreen]

Hi Leslie

))
You could give an ice maidian wave and go " Himm , Himm "
Bruce On. " well , it works for the Queen

)) "

RhondaM

2004-12-16, 9:23 am

OMGosh.. I know what you mean some people do not know the difference in a
firm handshake and crushing your hand. I had a lady who was a social worker
for hospice when grandpa was sick..well anyways she shook my hand and I
thought I was going to smack her! She squeezed my hand so tightly and hard
my fingers was turning blue. I am a big woman and that stuff usually doesnt
bother me but this was on the verge of wanting to scream. I think squeezing
someones hand is not good manners at all.
Just my two cents
RhondaM
"Chaos Hill" <mrsmugly@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:AqydnQDOd5gh5hTcRVn-hg@centurytel.net...
> Hello all,
> hope you are all doing well - so many posts to catch up on...
>
> have been away for a few weeks and had a wonderful time - only a few minor
> flares.
> however - while meeting so many new people I discovered that I need to
> learn to tactfully avoid the custom of handshakes - it's quite painful
> most of the time, not unlike having your hands stpped on...
>
> any words of wisdom?
> thanks
> Leslie
>
> --
> Discombobulated Thoughts Of An Adelpated Mind
>

A451frnht

2004-12-16, 9:23 am

I have the same problem because of small hands, I was once taught a trick that
actually works. When extending your hand make sure your index finger and middle
fingerare are extended so that they extend up the other persons wrist instead
of into their palm. no matter how hard they squeeze they can not crush your
hand, try it with a friend first to get the hang of it. I do it all the time as
a course of habit. Good luck Jim