Impotence Support - 26 year old having problems with erections

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26 year old having problems with erections

zimbimbamboom@yahoo.com

2006-09-20, 4:22 pm

hi. i have a problem. i've been single for about two years. during that
time i've masturbated a lot, probably once a day on average.. but i've
had days where i was bored and probably masturbated 3-4 times with
ease. i started seeing this girl about a month ago.. when we first
kissed i got an erection, in fact i get one the first few minutes
everytime i see her.. the first time we made out in bed afterwards i
had the worst case of blue balls i can remember.. i also had blue balls
the next night i saw her but that was the last time, exactly a week
ago. i get hard as soon as we start kissing passionately when i see her
for the first time on a given day, but later when we're in bed, i can't
get it up. this has happened twice now, the first time we'd been
cuddling and making out for about three hours and then went for dinner
and came back to my place, no erection. it kind of took me by surprise,
i wasn't nervous and im very comfortable with her.. it wasn't something
i was thinking about or expecting, especially since i'd never had sex
with this girl i was more worried about it being too quick than
anything else.. i figured ok, probably missed my window with the three
hour make out session. then last night she came over, we started
kissing and i got an erection as soon as we put our arms around each
other and kissed.. we made dinner and ate, went to bed and she was
ready to go.. except i wasn't.. nothing. she played with it. nothing.
she tried giving me a blowjob. nothing. we played around in bed for two
hours but my dick never moved. frankly i'm in shock that having my
penis in a womans mouth couldn't revive it, especially since i had not
ejaculated since my last erection, especially with a woman that is new
in my life, its not like this is a girl ive been with a million times
and the novelty has worn off.. i was hard as a rock in the morning
though but she had to leave for work. im only 27 and this has taken me
completely by surprise, i really like this girl but this inability to
get an erection when needed is worrisome.. what will i have to do to
make love to this woman? undress her the second i see her and then im
done for the night? and then what? will i lose it halfway through? what
the hell is going on!? this sucks.

Michael

2006-09-20, 4:22 pm

One important thing that you left out....how were things before you were
single? Same? Better?

<zimbimbamboom@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1158776532.469428.247210@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com...
> hi. i have a problem. i've been single for about two years. during that
> time i've masturbated a lot, probably once a day on average.. but i've
> had days where i was bored and probably masturbated 3-4 times with
> ease. i started seeing this girl about a month ago.. when we first
> kissed i got an erection, in fact i get one the first few minutes
> everytime i see her.. the first time we made out in bed afterwards i
> had the worst case of blue balls i can remember.. i also had blue balls
> the next night i saw her but that was the last time, exactly a week
> ago. i get hard as soon as we start kissing passionately when i see her
> for the first time on a given day, but later when we're in bed, i can't
> get it up. this has happened twice now, the first time we'd been
> cuddling and making out for about three hours and then went for dinner
> and came back to my place, no erection. it kind of took me by surprise,
> i wasn't nervous and im very comfortable with her.. it wasn't something
> i was thinking about or expecting, especially since i'd never had sex
> with this girl i was more worried about it being too quick than
> anything else.. i figured ok, probably missed my window with the three
> hour make out session. then last night she came over, we started
> kissing and i got an erection as soon as we put our arms around each
> other and kissed.. we made dinner and ate, went to bed and she was
> ready to go.. except i wasn't.. nothing. she played with it. nothing.
> she tried giving me a blowjob. nothing. we played around in bed for two
> hours but my dick never moved. frankly i'm in shock that having my
> penis in a womans mouth couldn't revive it, especially since i had not
> ejaculated since my last erection, especially with a woman that is new
> in my life, its not like this is a girl ive been with a million times
> and the novelty has worn off.. i was hard as a rock in the morning
> though but she had to leave for work. im only 27 and this has taken me
> completely by surprise, i really like this girl but this inability to
> get an erection when needed is worrisome.. what will i have to do to
> make love to this woman? undress her the second i see her and then im
> done for the night? and then what? will i lose it halfway through? what
> the hell is going on!? this sucks.
>

Wanderer

2006-09-21, 8:20 am

On Wed, 20 Sep 2006 14:22:12 -0400, zimbimbamboom@yahoo.com wrote
(in article <1158776532.469428.247210@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com> ):

> hi. i have a problem. i've been single for about two years. during that
> time i've masturbated a lot, probably once a day on average.. but i've
> had days where i was bored and probably masturbated 3-4 times with
> ease. i started seeing this girl about a month ago.. when we first
> kissed i got an erection, in fact i get one the first few minutes
> everytime i see her.. the first time we made out in bed afterwards i
> had the worst case of blue balls i can remember.. i also had blue balls
> the next night i saw her but that was the last time, exactly a week
> ago. i get hard as soon as we start kissing passionately when i see her
> for the first time on a given day, but later when we're in bed, i can't
> get it up. this has happened twice now, the first time we'd been
> cuddling and making out for about three hours and then went for dinner
> and came back to my place, no erection. it kind of took me by surprise,
> i wasn't nervous and im very comfortable with her.. it wasn't something
> i was thinking about or expecting, especially since i'd never had sex
> with this girl i was more worried about it being too quick than
> anything else.. i figured ok, probably missed my window with the three
> hour make out session. then last night she came over, we started
> kissing and i got an erection as soon as we put our arms around each
> other and kissed.. we made dinner and ate, went to bed and she was
> ready to go.. except i wasn't.. nothing. she played with it. nothing.
> she tried giving me a blowjob. nothing. we played around in bed for two
> hours but my dick never moved. frankly i'm in shock that having my
> penis in a womans mouth couldn't revive it, especially since i had not
> ejaculated since my last erection, especially with a woman that is new
> in my life, its not like this is a girl ive been with a million times
> and the novelty has worn off.. i was hard as a rock in the morning
> though but she had to leave for work. im only 27 and this has taken me
> completely by surprise, i really like this girl but this inability to
> get an erection when needed is worrisome.. what will i have to do to
> make love to this woman? undress her the second i see her and then im
> done for the night? and then what? will i lose it halfway through? what
> the hell is going on!? this sucks.
>

They call your syndrome performance anxiety. There's nothing wrong with you
physically -- you stay hard for hours while you're cuddling and making out.
You're just nervous about having sex with her, and now you have the specific
worry that you won't be able to get it up. Once you are in that state, no
amount or type of sexual stimulation will do anything for you. You're trapped
in your head and the pathway from your penis to your brain is shut off. What
I found over the years is that some women instinctively know how to handle
this, and eventually you successfully have sex with them, and from then on,
you never have the problem again... with that woman. Other women seem
flustered by it, and with them, sometimes, sex is just not possible. The best
advice I can give you is to try and relax, and not focus on a specific sex
act like a blowjob or screwing. Try to make your lovemaking more like your
cuddling and making out. Talk to her beforehand and tell her you have been
without a partner for a while, and are nervous about having sex. Ask her if
you can just lie naked in bed and sort of fool around for awhile, no
penetration, just playing and stroking. And by all means, give her oral sex.
Those female pheromones will do some surprising things to your penis. Some of
the best erections of my life happened after I promised a woman that I wanted
nothing more than to do her orally. The key to solving this is stop feeling
that you have to perform. Just enjoy her sensually without feeling you have
to penetrate her. Make sure you talk to her and express your feelings. You
can always try Cialis or Viagra as a confidence booster... but even these can
be defeated by extreme cases of performance anxiety. If the problem persists,
you could consider therapy... but you have to choose the right therapist, and
therapy takes time. First try solving it with your partner. As a team.

Wanderer

zimbimbamboom@yahoo.com

2006-09-21, 4:21 pm

well no i don't stay hard for hours when we cuddle, but i do -get-
hard. in any case she came over last night and i got an erection when
we hit the bed and i got one later when she was caressing my penis..
she gave me a blowjob and i maintained the erection, although not quite
100%.. however i didn't come but thats always been hit and miss, i
usually like to penetrate if its not happening but she's on her period.
im glad i got an erection, glad i was able to keep it while
stimulated.. next is just to actually come and/or penetrate.

Wanderer wrote:
> On Wed, 20 Sep 2006 14:22:12 -0400, zimbimbamboom@yahoo.com wrote
> (in article <1158776532.469428.247210@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com> ):
>
>
> They call your syndrome performance anxiety. There's nothing wrong with you
> physically -- you stay hard for hours while you're cuddling and making out.
> You're just nervous about having sex with her, and now you have the specific
> worry that you won't be able to get it up. Once you are in that state, no
> amount or type of sexual stimulation will do anything for you. You're trapped
> in your head and the pathway from your penis to your brain is shut off. What
> I found over the years is that some women instinctively know how to handle
> this, and eventually you successfully have sex with them, and from then on,
> you never have the problem again... with that woman. Other women seem
> flustered by it, and with them, sometimes, sex is just not possible. The best
> advice I can give you is to try and relax, and not focus on a specific sex
> act like a blowjob or screwing. Try to make your lovemaking more like your
> cuddling and making out. Talk to her beforehand and tell her you have been
> without a partner for a while, and are nervous about having sex. Ask her if
> you can just lie naked in bed and sort of fool around for awhile, no
> penetration, just playing and stroking. And by all means, give her oral sex.
> Those female pheromones will do some surprising things to your penis. Some of
> the best erections of my life happened after I promised a woman that I wanted
> nothing more than to do her orally. The key to solving this is stop feeling
> that you have to perform. Just enjoy her sensually without feeling you have
> to penetrate her. Make sure you talk to her and express your feelings. You
> can always try Cialis or Viagra as a confidence booster... but even these can
> be defeated by extreme cases of performance anxiety. If the problem persists,
> you could consider therapy... but you have to choose the right therapist, and
> therapy takes time. First try solving it with your partner. As a team.
>
> Wanderer