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| chinorlzster@gmail.com 2006-09-19, 4:22 pm |
| Hi guys, I am a 24 year old who has only begun being sexually active in
the last 6 months (late bloomer).
My first girlfriend back in february and I attempted sex multiple
times. I was able to orgasm without a problem through oral sex, but my
penis went flaccid before I was able to put on a condom or soon after
putting on the condom and starting sex.
My second girlfriend (current) is someone I think I can have a strong,
long relationship with. This past weekend was the first time we tried
sex and we stopped the first time because she was beginning her period.
On sunday morning, we tried again and I was easily able to get hard and
put on the condom, but after beginning sex (doggystyle), I lost my
erection and the "moment" was spoiled.
Obviously my ED is psychological. I'm not sure if it has to do with
anxiety over performance overall, or if it a combination of that plus
the actual act of putting on the condom (combined with the lack of
sensation via condom).
I've got a small (5 pill) script for Cialis and I'm going to purchase
some lambskin condoms (better sensation... we only worry about
pregnancy, not STDs). I've read a lot online and it supports the idea
that Cialis will function as a confidence builder.
My gf and I didn't talk about it this past weekend, but this coming one
I plan on telling her that these first few times we try to have sex, I
may get anxious, not because I am not attracted to her (she's a lovely
girl), but because I want to please her.
So does anyone have any other suggestions or feel that this is a
reasonable route to take?
Thanks for everyone's input! -A
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| Wanderer 2006-09-19, 4:22 pm |
| On Tue, 19 Sep 2006 14:25:06 -0400, chinorlzster@gmail.com wrote
(in article <1158690306.238650.325240@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com> ):
> Hi guys, I am a 24 year old who has only begun being sexually active in
> the last 6 months (late bloomer).
>
> My first girlfriend back in february and I attempted sex multiple
> times. I was able to orgasm without a problem through oral sex, but my
> penis went flaccid before I was able to put on a condom or soon after
> putting on the condom and starting sex.
>
> My second girlfriend (current) is someone I think I can have a strong,
> long relationship with. This past weekend was the first time we tried
> sex and we stopped the first time because she was beginning her period.
> On sunday morning, we tried again and I was easily able to get hard and
> put on the condom, but after beginning sex (doggystyle), I lost my
> erection and the "moment" was spoiled.
>
> Obviously my ED is psychological. I'm not sure if it has to do with
> anxiety over performance overall, or if it a combination of that plus
> the actual act of putting on the condom (combined with the lack of
> sensation via condom).
>
> I've got a small (5 pill) script for Cialis and I'm going to purchase
> some lambskin condoms (better sensation... we only worry about
> pregnancy, not STDs). I've read a lot online and it supports the idea
> that Cialis will function as a confidence builder.
>
> My gf and I didn't talk about it this past weekend, but this coming one
> I plan on telling her that these first few times we try to have sex, I
> may get anxious, not because I am not attracted to her (she's a lovely
> girl), but because I want to please her.
>
> So does anyone have any other suggestions or feel that this is a
> reasonable route to take?
>
> Thanks for everyone's input! -A
I think you have got it exactly right... your ED is obviously psychological
and compounded by the act of putting on a condom, which has killed many a
good erection. Sure, use some Cialis as a confidence builder just to get over
the hump (no pun intended). You are absolutely right to talk to the girl and
explain things. When I was your age, I had the exact same problem, and found
that by simply telling a partner beforehand that I sometimes got nervous and
couldn't perform, the problem stopped happening. One other thought... try to
get your girlfriend to use birth control... even a diaphragm... so you can
stop worrying about those stupid condoms. They are a terrible form of birth
control anyway.
Wanderer
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| Mark Trio 2006-09-19, 9:24 pm |
| I had the same problem in my 20's. Lasted 5 gruesume years. From 20 to 25. I
finally overcame it (no pun intended) when i hooked up with a girl who put
no pressure on me and said we didn't have to have intercourse and we could
just make out. So with no pressure I was able to stop thinking about it and
finally things took their due course. Thing to avoid is setting up a date
and thinking "I have to perform tonight". You're also thinking about how
long you can sustain an erection. Something I'm sure you don't think about
when you masturbate.
You will get there. You just need to forget about intercourse for a while
and let your girlfriend know you are jsut anxious. If she's worth it, she'll
understand.
<chinorlzster@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:1158690306.238650.325240@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com...
> Hi guys, I am a 24 year old who has only begun being sexually active in
> the last 6 months (late bloomer).
>
> My first girlfriend back in february and I attempted sex multiple
> times. I was able to orgasm without a problem through oral sex, but my
> penis went flaccid before I was able to put on a condom or soon after
> putting on the condom and starting sex.
>
> My second girlfriend (current) is someone I think I can have a strong,
> long relationship with. This past weekend was the first time we tried
> sex and we stopped the first time because she was beginning her period.
> On sunday morning, we tried again and I was easily able to get hard and
> put on the condom, but after beginning sex (doggystyle), I lost my
> erection and the "moment" was spoiled.
>
> Obviously my ED is psychological. I'm not sure if it has to do with
> anxiety over performance overall, or if it a combination of that plus
> the actual act of putting on the condom (combined with the lack of
> sensation via condom).
>
> I've got a small (5 pill) script for Cialis and I'm going to purchase
> some lambskin condoms (better sensation... we only worry about
> pregnancy, not STDs). I've read a lot online and it supports the idea
> that Cialis will function as a confidence builder.
>
> My gf and I didn't talk about it this past weekend, but this coming one
> I plan on telling her that these first few times we try to have sex, I
> may get anxious, not because I am not attracted to her (she's a lovely
> girl), but because I want to please her.
>
> So does anyone have any other suggestions or feel that this is a
> reasonable route to take?
>
> Thanks for everyone's input! -A
>
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| Michael 2006-09-19, 9:24 pm |
| I would try the Cialis. It's worth a throw, but it's not foolproof. If you
have performance anxiety, it could still kill an erection. The problem is
that when the moment of truth comes, you start thinking about whether your
erection will hold and that kills it. I've struggled with this all my life
and I'm 53. I'm still trying to find a consistent way to focus on the
stimulation and not think about the erection. If things don't improve, get
therapy. Don't waste as much time as I did.
<chinorlzster@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:1158690306.238650.325240@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com...
> Hi guys, I am a 24 year old who has only begun being sexually active in
> the last 6 months (late bloomer).
>
> My first girlfriend back in february and I attempted sex multiple
> times. I was able to orgasm without a problem through oral sex, but my
> penis went flaccid before I was able to put on a condom or soon after
> putting on the condom and starting sex.
>
> My second girlfriend (current) is someone I think I can have a strong,
> long relationship with. This past weekend was the first time we tried
> sex and we stopped the first time because she was beginning her period.
> On sunday morning, we tried again and I was easily able to get hard and
> put on the condom, but after beginning sex (doggystyle), I lost my
> erection and the "moment" was spoiled.
>
> Obviously my ED is psychological. I'm not sure if it has to do with
> anxiety over performance overall, or if it a combination of that plus
> the actual act of putting on the condom (combined with the lack of
> sensation via condom).
>
> I've got a small (5 pill) script for Cialis and I'm going to purchase
> some lambskin condoms (better sensation... we only worry about
> pregnancy, not STDs). I've read a lot online and it supports the idea
> that Cialis will function as a confidence builder.
>
> My gf and I didn't talk about it this past weekend, but this coming one
> I plan on telling her that these first few times we try to have sex, I
> may get anxious, not because I am not attracted to her (she's a lovely
> girl), but because I want to please her.
>
> So does anyone have any other suggestions or feel that this is a
> reasonable route to take?
>
> Thanks for everyone's input! -A
>
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| agudbuk 2006-09-20, 8:21 am |
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<chinorlzster@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:1158690306.238650.325240@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com...
> Hi guys, I am a 24 year old who has only begun being sexually active in
> the last 6 months (late bloomer).
>
> My first girlfriend back in february and I attempted sex multiple
> times. I was able to orgasm without a problem through oral sex, but my
> penis went flaccid before I was able to put on a condom or soon after
> putting on the condom and starting sex.
>
> My second girlfriend (current) is someone I think I can have a strong,
> long relationship with. This past weekend was the first time we tried
> sex and we stopped the first time because she was beginning her period.
> On sunday morning, we tried again and I was easily able to get hard and
> put on the condom, but after beginning sex (doggystyle), I lost my
> erection and the "moment" was spoiled.
>
> Obviously my ED is psychological. I'm not sure if it has to do with
> anxiety over performance overall, or if it a combination of that plus
> the actual act of putting on the condom (combined with the lack of
> sensation via condom).
>
> I've got a small (5 pill) script for Cialis and I'm going to purchase
> some lambskin condoms (better sensation... we only worry about
> pregnancy, not STDs). I've read a lot online and it supports the idea
> that Cialis will function as a confidence builder.
>
> My gf and I didn't talk about it this past weekend, but this coming one
> I plan on telling her that these first few times we try to have sex, I
> may get anxious, not because I am not attracted to her (she's a lovely
> girl), but because I want to please her.
>
> So does anyone have any other suggestions or feel that this is a
> reasonable route to take?
>
> Thanks for everyone's input! -A
>
Perhaps the problem is due to over excitement. Try thinking of someone less
desirable .
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| hi:
The symptoms looks like premature ejaculation to me.
I urge you not to take this issue lightly. it can affect the quality of
your relationship. Learn how to satisfy your girl both emotionally and
physically. As I know, some ladies whose partners have these problems
tend to think that it is the ladies' fault. They have the tendency to
think that their un-attractiveness is the root cause. It becomes worse
when the guys do not want to seek help (which always happen).
I have a free report by a good friend of mine, on how to satisfy your
women sexually even if you ejaculate early:
http://www.advice4u.us/PE.htm
good luck!
agudbuk (remove MY GARMENTS for correct address) wrote:
> <chinorlzster@gmail.com> wrote in message
> news:1158690306.238650.325240@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com...
>
> Perhaps the problem is due to over excitement. Try thinking of someone less
> desirable .
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<chinorlzster@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:1158690306.238650.325240@i3g2000cwc.googlegroups.com...
> Hi guys, I am a 24 year old who has only begun being sexually active in
> the last 6 months (late bloomer).
>
> My first girlfriend back in february and I attempted sex multiple
> times. I was able to orgasm without a problem through oral sex, but my
> penis went flaccid before I was able to put on a condom or soon after
> putting on the condom and starting sex.
>
> My second girlfriend (current) is someone I think I can have a strong,
> long relationship with. This past weekend was the first time we tried
> sex and we stopped the first time because she was beginning her period.
> On sunday morning, we tried again and I was easily able to get hard and
> put on the condom, but after beginning sex (doggystyle), I lost my
> erection and the "moment" was spoiled.
>
> Obviously my ED is psychological. I'm not sure if it has to do with
> anxiety over performance overall, or if it a combination of that plus
> the actual act of putting on the condom (combined with the lack of
> sensation via condom).
Don't use a condom use something like the sponge. Chance of STD's is greatly
exagerated.
>
> I've got a small (5 pill) script for Cialis and I'm going to purchase
> some lambskin condoms (better sensation... we only worry about
> pregnancy, not STDs). I've read a lot online and it supports the idea
> that Cialis will function as a confidence builder.
>
> My gf and I didn't talk about it this past weekend, but this coming one
> I plan on telling her that these first few times we try to have sex, I
> may get anxious, not because I am not attracted to her (she's a lovely
> girl), but because I want to please her.
>
> So does anyone have any other suggestions or feel that this is a
> reasonable route to take?
It sounds like axiety so you should try some Xanax before sex.
>
> Thanks for everyone's input! -A
>
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