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| Bob Morrison 2006-02-08, 1:30 am |
| I have not had a real hard on for 6 years since my marriage broke up Not
even wet dreams . I have had relationships but I seem indifferant to sex No
Passion When I say no passion my head is willing but my dick is only half
interested If my woman really wants me I can sustain an erection sufficient
for penetration (nothing great )yet lose it real quick if I think she has
lost interest or I think it is not hard enough I grab it to see how hard it
is and when I do it dies on me It seems to have a mind of its own. I want
to feel sexual interest not mentally Be horny Have a sexual appetite The
woman I am with now has passion I only have some interest half a hard on
when I am with her Which is better than the nothing I felt with the one
before Sex can be achieved through friction I want the fantasy The sexual
desire that is so keen that my dick will ache because it is so hard
Any ideas Limp Dick
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| Wanderer 2006-02-08, 1:30 am |
| On Sun, 5 Feb 2006 16:47:54 -0500, Bob Morrison wrote
(in message <ds5rtr$2l59$1@bunyip2.cc.uq.edu.au> ):
> I have not had a real hard on for 6 years since my marriage broke up Not
> even wet dreams . I have had relationships but I seem indifferant to sex No
> Passion When I say no passion my head is willing but my dick is only half
> interested If my woman really wants me I can sustain an erection sufficient
> for penetration (nothing great )yet lose it real quick if I think she has
> lost interest or I think it is not hard enough I grab it to see how hard it
> is and when I do it dies on me It seems to have a mind of its own. I want
> to feel sexual interest not mentally Be horny Have a sexual appetite The
> woman I am with now has passion I only have some interest half a hard on
> when I am with her Which is better than the nothing I felt with the one
> before Sex can be achieved through friction I want the fantasy The sexual
> desire that is so keen that my dick will ache because it is so hard
>
> Any ideas Limp Dick
You don't mention your age or medical history, both of which are important
factors in evaluating your situation.
My advice to you is simple: start by getting a script for Viagra or Cialis or
Levitra. Most MDs will prescribe them without hesitation if you mention
sexual difficulties (unless you're taking certain medications, mostly for
heart problems). The Viagra won't cure your lack of interest, but it will
almost certainly make you capable of sustaining an erection without any
difficulty. So at the very least, you'll be able to have satisfactory sex
with your partner, and keep the relationship on track. The Viagra may also
give you a boost in confidence which will counter some of the negative
thoughts that are working against you.
I agree with MrSofty that you should also have blood work done, to see if
your hormones are in range. Often, low libido and depression are signs of low
testosterone. The blood work should check your levels of testosterone,
bioavailable testosterone, estradiol, DHEA, and a bunch of other hormonal
factors. You need to find the right doctor for this... someone who is
knowledgeable in testosterone replacement therapy (TRT).
A number of posters in this group have achieved long-term success with a
combination of TRT and ED meds. But while you wait for a full medical
analysis, try one of the ED meds. I particularly recommend Cialis. It has a
wider window of action, and according to some posters here (including
myself), it seems to stimulate libido as well. It also produces fabulous
nocturnal and morning erections, which will make you feel like a kid again.
Good luck, keep us posted on your progress.
Wanderer
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| Jerry Sturdivant 2006-02-08, 1:30 am |
| Along with the other fine suggestions, some of the basics are caffeine
intake (Coffee, coke, chocolate) and various other medicines.
Jerry of ASI
"Bob Morrison" <bobmorrison@uq.net.au> wrote in message
news:ds5rtr$2l59$1@bunyip2.cc.uq.edu.au...
>I have not had a real hard on for 6 years since my marriage broke up Not
> even wet dreams . I have had relationships but I seem indifferant to sex
> No
> Passion When I say no passion my head is willing but my dick is only half
> interested If my woman really wants me I can sustain an erection
> sufficient
> for penetration (nothing great )yet lose it real quick if I think she has
> lost interest or I think it is not hard enough I grab it to see how hard
> it
> is and when I do it dies on me It seems to have a mind of its own. I
> want
> to feel sexual interest not mentally Be horny Have a sexual appetite The
> woman I am with now has passion I only have some interest half a hard on
> when I am with her Which is better than the nothing I felt with the one
> before Sex can be achieved through friction I want the fantasy The sexual
> desire that is so keen that my dick will ache because it is so hard
>
> Any ideas Limp Dick
>
>
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| Bob Morrison 2006-02-08, 1:30 am |
| Spoke to pschologist (I had been seeing her for some time about effect on
me re relationship I had with a woman previously who had severe character
disorders due to sexual abuse from her family ) She told me it was
definately phsychological
She said that for me sex is the ultimate commitment a completion of a bond
emotionaly That because I feel emotionaly vunerable with this woman I am now
with That there is an expectation of being hurt
Shit I sound like a real wuss I am 58 years old was married for twenty years
The marriage broke up for religious reasons ( cult involvement) not because
of any lack of love between us. Can anyone else relate to what sounds to me
like phsycho mumbo jumbo
"Bob Morrison" <bobmorrison@uq.net.au> wrote in message
news:ds5rtr$2l59$1@bunyip2.cc.uq.edu.au...
> I have not had a real hard on for 6 years since my marriage broke up Not
> even wet dreams . I have had relationships but I seem indifferant to sex
No
> Passion When I say no passion my head is willing but my dick is only half
> interested If my woman really wants me I can sustain an erection
sufficient
> for penetration (nothing great )yet lose it real quick if I think she has
> lost interest or I think it is not hard enough I grab it to see how hard
it
> is and when I do it dies on me It seems to have a mind of its own. I
want
> to feel sexual interest not mentally Be horny Have a sexual appetite The
> woman I am with now has passion I only have some interest half a hard on
> when I am with her Which is better than the nothing I felt with the one
> before Sex can be achieved through friction I want the fantasy The sexual
> desire that is so keen that my dick will ache because it is so hard
>
> Any ideas Limp Dick
>
>
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| Wanderer 2006-02-08, 1:30 am |
| On Mon, 6 Feb 2006 17:15:42 -0500, Bob Morrison wrote
(in message <ds8hrr$1le1$1@bunyip2.cc.uq.edu.au> ):
> Spoke to pschologist (I had been seeing her for some time about effect on
> me re relationship I had with a woman previously who had severe character
> disorders due to sexual abuse from her family ) She told me it was
> definately phsychological
> She said that for me sex is the ultimate commitment a completion of a bond
> emotionaly That because I feel emotionaly vunerable with this woman I am now
> with That there is an expectation of being hurt
> Shit I sound like a real wuss I am 58 years old was married for twenty years
> The marriage broke up for religious reasons ( cult involvement) not because
> of any lack of love between us. Can anyone else relate to what sounds to me
> like phsycho mumbo jumbo
At 58, you can have libido and ED problems for a whole variety of reasons.
These problems can be exacerbated by psychological issues, but personally, I
think your therapist is spewing psychobabble ‹ a great example of the
aphorism, "When all you've got is a hammer, every problem tends to look like
a nail."
The therapist's theory doesn't come close to explaining why you have no
libido, or why your erections don't last long enough for good sex. You have
to be really careful in choosing a therapist. More than half of them are
complete bullshit artists who mostly make problems worse. But your first
priority should be getting a complete physical exam including blood work, to
rule out other causes of your ED and libido problems. Those causes can
include things like diabetes, cardiovascular problems, hormonal issues, nerve
damage, and many others.
Since you've previously sought psychological counseling, I should also ask if
you've been taking SSRIs -- one of the major culprits in killing libido and
erectile capacity.
Wanderer
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| Jerry Sturdivant 2006-02-08, 1:30 am |
|
"Bob Morrison" <bobmorrison@uq.net.au> wrote
> Spoke to pschologist (I had been seeing her for some time
> about effect on me re relationship I had with a woman previously
> who had severe character disorders due to sexual abuse
> from her family ) She told me it was definately phsychological
> She said that for me sex is the ultimate commitment a completion
> of a bond emotionaly That because I feel emotionaly vunerable
> with this woman I am now with That there is an expectation
> of being hurt Shit I sound like a real wuss I am 58 years
> old was married for twenty years The marriage broke up for
> religious reasons ( cult involvement) not because of any
> lack of love between us. Can anyone else relate to what
> sounds to me like phsycho mumbo jumbo
Cut to it. Get some Viagra and try it. It's possible you'll quickly find the
answer to your problem.
When taking Viagra; it should be on an empty stomach. (Don't eat for
4-hours). Many of us here have found it's quicker acting when you drop the
pill in a one-inch glass of water and swirl it around until dissolved. (Don't
worry about the blue cover). Drink it down. Chase the bitter taste with
another half glass of water. You should feel the effect is less than
15-minutes. Good results require stimulation.
Jerry of ASI
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| Jerry Sturdivant wrote:
> "Bob Morrison" <bobmorrison@uq.net.au> wrote
>
>
> Cut to it. Get some Viagra and try it. It's possible you'll quickly find the
> answer to your problem.
>
> When taking Viagra; it should be on an empty stomach. (Don't eat for
> 4-hours). Many of us here have found it's quicker acting when you drop the
> pill in a one-inch glass of water and swirl it around until dissolved. (Don't
> worry about the blue cover). Drink it down. Chase the bitter taste with
> another half glass of water. You should feel the effect is less than
> 15-minutes. Good results require stimulation.
>
> Jerry of ASI
>
>
>
>
Agree with Jerry on the direct, 'cut to the chase,' physiological
approach to the E.D. problem. It works on the idea that "breeding is
normal." A few weeks of sexual satisfaction can help most guys find
their center. Have a Foster's or two after the act!
Following is a narrow, Northern Hemisphere view:
I get very hardnosed concerning the role of those in the mental healing
arts--particularly when it comes to E.D. Some short (very short)
explanations of 'reasons' for your situation might be OK if you ask;
HOWEVER, (sorry for the shouting) the therapist should be offering
positive mental and behavioral pathways out of the situation. These are:
- Behaviors (physical, mental, communication) for you to try,
- Coping techniques to build relationship skills or,
- Some alternate thoughts or "drills" that you can bring into play
during relationship events
It sounds like you haven't been getting much help--just sympathy and
regular reminders of some unsat experiences. My advise: Get the hell
out of this shrink's office and give it a rest.
If after some Viagra therapy, you need further help, find a different
therapist. Look for someone specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
if you believe that your mood is the problem or Dialectical Behavioral
Therapy if you sense that personality differences are at the root of
things.
--
LMac
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| Bob Morrison 2006-02-08, 1:30 am |
| Viagra and cialis do not help Sex is friction and fantasy
There is no desire no fantasy I could have any number of naked woman
playing with my cock and have no desire sure I may want to and will in my
head to please the woman But I have no hunger no horniness I might as well
have come from Mars assuming they dont have sex on Mars If it was left to
me to father the human race it would be done out of duty Like with the
thought of a juicy steak my mouth waters The thought of a night of bonking
nothing nothing and that isn't normal
"LMac" <LMac5491@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:y94Gf.56649$V.17633@fed1read04...
> Jerry Sturdivant wrote:
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> Agree with Jerry on the direct, 'cut to the chase,' physiological
> approach to the E.D. problem. It works on the idea that "breeding is
> normal." A few weeks of sexual satisfaction can help most guys find
> their center. Have a Foster's or two after the act!
>
> Following is a narrow, Northern Hemisphere view:
>
> I get very hardnosed concerning the role of those in the mental healing
> arts--particularly when it comes to E.D. Some short (very short)
> explanations of 'reasons' for your situation might be OK if you ask;
> HOWEVER, (sorry for the shouting) the therapist should be offering
> positive mental and behavioral pathways out of the situation. These are:
>
> - Behaviors (physical, mental, communication) for you to try,
> - Coping techniques to build relationship skills or,
> - Some alternate thoughts or "drills" that you can bring into play
> during relationship events
>
> It sounds like you haven't been getting much help--just sympathy and
> regular reminders of some unsat experiences. My advise: Get the hell
> out of this shrink's office and give it a rest.
>
> If after some Viagra therapy, you need further help, find a different
> therapist. Look for someone specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
> if you believe that your mood is the problem or Dialectical Behavioral
> Therapy if you sense that personality differences are at the root of
> things.
> --
> LMac
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| Jerry Sturdivant 2006-02-13, 11:14 am |
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> Viagra and cialis do not help Sex is friction and fantasy
> There is no desire no fantasy
I believe that erections cause desire; just as desire causes erection.
Jerry of ASI
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| Wanderer 2006-02-13, 11:14 am |
| On Tue, 7 Feb 2006 15:40:41 -0500, Bob Morrison wrote
(in message <dsb0m8$26te$1@bunyip2.cc.uq.edu.au> ):
> Viagra and cialis do not help Sex is friction and fantasy
> There is no desire no fantasy I could have any number of naked woman
> playing with my cock and have no desire sure I may want to and will in my
> head to please the woman But I have no hunger no horniness I might as well
> have come from Mars assuming they dont have sex on Mars If it was left to
> me to father the human race it would be done out of duty Like with the
> thought of a juicy steak my mouth waters The thought of a night of bonking
> nothing nothing and that isn't normal
You're starting to sound like a self-absorbed neurotic to me ‹ suffering from
"there's absolutely no solution" syndrome. Get a complete phsyical checkup
including blood work, full hormone panel. Any number of physical issues can
cause low libido, including high prolactin, low testosterone, high estradiol,
and on into the night. If your blood workup and checkup reveal no organic
cause for your loss of libido, and Viagra and Cialis do nothing for you, I
guess you might be out of luck.
Wanderer
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