Impotence Support - Performance anxiety

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Performance anxiety

mark451980@hotmail.com

2006-02-13, 11:14 am

I had a question regarding this. I'm a perfectly healthy 25 year old
male, in shape, low cholesterol, work out twice weekly, etc. The one
problem I have is a general anxiey, I'm perfectly comfortable around
those I know, but have trouble making eye contact and so on with
unfamiliar people in even comfortable settings. I've never really had a
problem getting and maintaining an erection on my own, but in intimate
situations, it has been a problem.

When I was 18, the girl who I felt was undoubtably the love of my life
(I know when we're young we all tend to feel this sort of thing, but
I've never even approached the level before or since), and the
relationship eventually crumbled because of this. I never felt more
comfortable around someone, but an underlying anxiety that I wouldn't
be able to perform intimately manfiested itself whenever we were alone.
In these situations, I'll get a large rush of adrenaline, and while I'm
incredibly mentally turned on, the rest of my body isn't responding in
kind, and it's an absolutely, incredibly frustrating thing. I've tried
using Cialis before, and while I've noticed it's been an enhancer in
non-intimate situations, it's had probably zero effect on what I've
described above.

The one thing I've ever used, and has worked incredibly, is Klonopin. I
got the type of physical response one would associate with a Viagra or
Cialis, which leads me to believe my problem is an intense anxiety,
rather than any ED. I've also noticed any types of stimulant drugs have
had quite a negative effect on erectile function for me as well, so I'm
curious if in addition, any chemicals similar in structure to
adrenaline (and most stimulants are), my body is particularly sensitive
to in this regard.

Now this leads me to the question, will most antianxiety drugs in the
same class as Klonopin have a similar effect? I've known that for many,
on it's own, Klonopin will give it's user a rise in their libido. While
that's a consideration, my problem isn't at all getting turned on. What
similar drugs carry a risk for sexual side effects, for example, would
Ativan or Xanax carry a similar response from me? And for the record,
before anyone suggests it, alcohol, even in moderation, has never taken
the "edge" off for me. It's certainly relaxed me, but not to the point
that Klonopin has.

Jim

2006-02-13, 11:14 am

Seems to me you shouldn't resort to the psychotrophic drugs until
you've made a decent attempt using Cialis, Viagra, and Levitra, the
latter two packing more immediate punch than Cialis does.

Try these drugs a couple or a few times on your own, solo, so you know
what to expect in terms of when they take effect and duration of the
effect.

If you have these social hangups, don't attempt sex with women you are
not comfortable with. Sounds like you'd be asking for trouble as this
would just tense you up.

If you do have the opportunity to have sex with someone you are
comfortable with, suggest a sleep-over with no sex that night; just
dinner, cuddling and talking. My bet is the next morning, after you
have slept, are relaxed, and your testosterone levels are as high then
as they are going to get all day, you'll be in good shape for sex.
And, having "practiced" on your own you will know with whatever
erectile drug when to take it before.

PS: Women love honesty and directness. It will help you a whole lot
to tell her ahead of time that you ALWAYS get tense at the beginning of
a sexual relationship. Any woman worth her salt will respond to that
by making you as relaxed as she can. They adore treating us like
puppies.

Jim

Jim

John

2006-02-13, 11:14 am

I think you may have discovered one of the unknowns in ED problems. Many men
seem to have the physical ability only to lose it due to mental anxiety.
Anxiety can be from many causes some of which may be easy to overcome while
others not so easy. If the occassional use of an anti-anxiety drug helps,
all the power to you. After all, we're already taking drugs to get an
erection so one more in the 'pleasure' arsenal can't hurt, IMHO. Like you I
have anxiety issues and may try some experimentation to see if anti-anxiety
drugs help.

<mark451980@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1139679273.188331.179700@o13g2000cwo.googlegroups.com...
> I had a question regarding this. I'm a perfectly healthy 25 year old
> male, in shape, low cholesterol, work out twice weekly, etc. The one
> problem I have is a general anxiey, I'm perfectly comfortable around
> those I know, but have trouble making eye contact and so on with
> unfamiliar people in even comfortable settings. I've never really had a
> problem getting and maintaining an erection on my own, but in intimate
> situations, it has been a problem.
>
> When I was 18, the girl who I felt was undoubtably the love of my life
> (I know when we're young we all tend to feel this sort of thing, but
> I've never even approached the level before or since), and the
> relationship eventually crumbled because of this. I never felt more
> comfortable around someone, but an underlying anxiety that I wouldn't
> be able to perform intimately manfiested itself whenever we were alone.
> In these situations, I'll get a large rush of adrenaline, and while I'm
> incredibly mentally turned on, the rest of my body isn't responding in
> kind, and it's an absolutely, incredibly frustrating thing. I've tried
> using Cialis before, and while I've noticed it's been an enhancer in
> non-intimate situations, it's had probably zero effect on what I've
> described above.
>
> The one thing I've ever used, and has worked incredibly, is Klonopin. I
> got the type of physical response one would associate with a Viagra or
> Cialis, which leads me to believe my problem is an intense anxiety,
> rather than any ED. I've also noticed any types of stimulant drugs have
> had quite a negative effect on erectile function for me as well, so I'm
> curious if in addition, any chemicals similar in structure to
> adrenaline (and most stimulants are), my body is particularly sensitive
> to in this regard.
>
> Now this leads me to the question, will most antianxiety drugs in the
> same class as Klonopin have a similar effect? I've known that for many,
> on it's own, Klonopin will give it's user a rise in their libido. While
> that's a consideration, my problem isn't at all getting turned on. What
> similar drugs carry a risk for sexual side effects, for example, would
> Ativan or Xanax carry a similar response from me? And for the record,
> before anyone suggests it, alcohol, even in moderation, has never taken
> the "edge" off for me. It's certainly relaxed me, but not to the point
> that Klonopin has.
>