Impotence Support - sharing the same doctor with spouse question

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sharing the same doctor with spouse question

marinabob60@yahoo.com

2005-07-26, 10:50 pm

I am 60 and am starting to have problems performing. I have made it
this far without any help, but now I admit it is time to talk things
over with the doc to see if one of the wonder pills will help me
perform.

My wife and I share the same doctor which is a female. We only started
going to this doctor about a year ago. My wife goes more frequently
than I do so she has established a nice repoir with the doctor. I
haven't seen the doctor since my last annual physical almost a year
ago.

My wife feels a little ackward about me going to HER doctor to discuss
my male problems. I told her I would change doctors if that made her
feel good, cause I haven't built up that much of a relationship yet
with our doctor.

So I was just curious what others do in this situation. Do some of you
with an impotency problem perfer to go to a different doctor than your
wife or S.O. has, or is it no big deal to just share the same doctor?
Are doctors pretty good at dealing with this situation when they have
both people as their patient?

Thanks

marinabob

Paul H.

2005-07-26, 10:50 pm

marinabob60@yahoo.com wrote:
> I am 60 and am starting to have problems performing. I have made it
> this far without any help, but now I admit it is time to talk things
> over with the doc to see if one of the wonder pills will help me
> perform.
>
> My wife and I share the same doctor which is a female. We only started
> going to this doctor about a year ago. My wife goes more frequently
> than I do so she has established a nice repoir with the doctor. I
> haven't seen the doctor since my last annual physical almost a year
> ago.
>
> My wife feels a little ackward about me going to HER doctor to discuss
> my male problems. I told her I would change doctors if that made her
> feel good, cause I haven't built up that much of a relationship yet
> with our doctor.
>
> So I was just curious what others do in this situation. Do some of you
> with an impotency problem perfer to go to a different doctor than your
> wife or S.O. has, or is it no big deal to just share the same doctor?
> Are doctors pretty good at dealing with this situation when they have
> both people as their patient?
>
>
> Thanks
>
> marinabob
>
Hello Bob,
Over the years I've shared two different Pri-care-docs with my
spouse. One doc was male and the current doc female. We like the
family doctor idea and it works well for us. While docs are trained to
keep things separate (and are legally required to do so by HIPPA), you
and your spouse will probably be more comfortable if you take your E.D.
problem to someone else. If your wife feels awkward, that's reason enough!
Suggestion: simply tell your doc that you are experiencing the
onset of an E.D. problem and ask for a referral to a Urologist (if you
are in an HMO) or, if you aren't in an HMO, ask that she recommend a
Urologist.
Although you aren't yet at Medicare age, check your candidate out
by asking whether he/she "accepts Medicare assignment." That way you'll
have continuity of care in another four years (changing Uros at 65 can
be awkward). Ask too whether he/she includes "compounded Trimix" in the
portfolio of treatments--since eventually you might be a Caverject or
Trimix candidate.
Once you are medicating, make sure your family doc knows and adds
Viagra, Cialis etc. to your list of meds. That's important as you move
further into your 60s since many meds we seniors use don't always play
well with drugs for E.D. Fear not--there are plenty of work-arounds--my
Uro has been very creative in keeping me both erect and medically safe.
He has tailored E.D. meds in ways (amounts, timing and separation from
other meds) that a Pri-care person wouldn't because they don't conform
with what's in the PDR.
Bottom line: Pri-care docs are very conservative and shoot for the
least common denominator (the PDR or Merck Manual solution), good Uros
are more daring and tailor the meds to the individual guy. Their
diagnoses are more accruate and they aim for the best possible yet, safe
solution.
Welcome to the 60s -- great years. Enjoy! Paul... (71)

ernestnolan

2005-07-27, 10:50 pm

Hi,

The wife got her life back when she went to an OB/GYN that was also an
endocrinologist that helped couples with fertility problems. She was unable
to take the oral medications as her liver did not metabolize the pills to
provide hormone to her blood stream

She found a pamphlet in the office about TRT for andropause and I began
hormone pellets back in 1992 even though I was one of the few male patients.
After his death we have been traveling from upstate NY to Augusta, GA to see
Dr. Gambrell every months for new pellets. There are no doctors that we
have been able to find in the whole NE outside of New York which is where we
will not go.

You probaly will not get much expert help from your GP and need either
hormone help or ED help or both as was the case for me. TRT did not fix my
ED except for a few weeks and the ED returned just as bad as before even
though I was enjoying the benefits of high normal T.

The urologist normally provides the ED cure. Viagra and such were not
available then in 1992 but later when I tried them, the TRIMIX injectible
performed much better so I didn't change. When my age related ED was due to
damaged nerves, the pills can no longer help.

ernestnolan

<marinabob60@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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>
> I am 60 and am starting to have problems performing. I have made it
> this far without any help, but now I admit it is time to talk things
> over with the doc to see if one of the wonder pills will help me
> perform.
>
> My wife and I share the same doctor which is a female. We only started
> going to this doctor about a year ago. My wife goes more frequently
> than I do so she has established a nice repoir with the doctor. I
> haven't seen the doctor since my last annual physical almost a year
> ago.
>
> My wife feels a little ackward about me going to HER doctor to discuss
> my male problems. I told her I would change doctors if that made her
> feel good, cause I haven't built up that much of a relationship yet
> with our doctor.
>
> So I was just curious what others do in this situation. Do some of you
> with an impotency problem perfer to go to a different doctor than your
> wife or S.O. has, or is it no big deal to just share the same doctor?
> Are doctors pretty good at dealing with this situation when they have
> both people as their patient?
>
>
> Thanks
>
> marinabob
>

Wanderer

2005-07-28, 10:48 pm

On Tue, 26 Jul 2005 21:23:59 -0400, marinabob60@yahoo.com wrote
(in message <1122427439.418922.184310@g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com> ):

>
> So I was just curious what others do in this situation. Do some of you
> with an impotency problem perfer to go to a different doctor than your
> wife or S.O. has, or is it no big deal to just share the same doctor?
> Are doctors pretty good at dealing with this situation when they have
> both people as their patient?

If your doctor is a good, caring, knowledgeable doctor, as well versed in
men's issues as she is in women's, it shouldn't make any difference.
Basically, you want to go to a doctor with maximum experience in treating
your specific health issues. If you suspect this doctor may not be that one,
find someone else.

Wanderer