Impotence Support - Affection

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Affection

Peggy Blankenship

2005-01-27, 6:51 am

Does ED cause lack of interest in gestures of affection ie. hugging,
holding hands or a gentle kiss? Things were fine before ED.

ernestnolan

2005-01-27, 6:51 am

Hi,

Men are funny animals.

There are all kinds of odd reactions to women for various reasons so I'll
make a guess.

If he can't perform with a good erection 100% of the time, he may find it
works better if he doesn't try very often like maybe a couple of weeks
later. Failing in front of a spouse is tough to take no matter what her
reaction is.

ED doesn't usually happen unless the man is up in years or having lots of
stress in his life. Medications like cholesterol or anxiety meds will really
do a job on a man's performance. Even blood pressure meds and many more.

Nerve paths essential for erections can be enhanced by viagra and the other
pills till the nerve paths get really bad due to age or diabetes.

Hormone levels can take away interest in hugging as the interest goes away
even though intercourse may be possible if he could get interested.

When nerve paths are really gone, then ED can be dealt with via injectibles
like trimix (my favorite) or caverject.

Got toget some help from a urologist that treats ED and it is best if he
provides injectibles also. Ask before making the appointment.

Read some books at Barnes and Noble or just browse if you don't buy.

ernestnolan

"Peggy Blankenship" <i2write@webtv.net> wrote in message
news:23580-41F65F11-197@storefull-3138.bay.webtv.net...
> Does ED cause lack of interest in gestures of affection ie. hugging,
> holding hands or a gentle kiss? Things were fine before ED.
>

D Hamilton

2005-01-27, 6:51 am

On Tue, 25 Jan 2005 10:00:33 -0500, i2write@webtv.net (Peggy
Blankenship) wrote:

>Does ED cause lack of interest in gestures of affection ie. hugging,
>holding hands or a gentle kiss? Things were fine before ED.

My ED came as a result of low Testosterone. My libido went to zero.
Sex seemed like a lot of work. I was kind of 'blah' all of the time --
little in life held much interest.

It did not occur to me that I was ignoring my wife. When my T was low
I didn't realize the cuddling and other gestures had stopped and
didn't miss them. (Even when my wife complained about our lack of a
sex life. She thought 3 times a week would be good. When she told me
that I remember thinking, "God! Three times a week?! That'll kill me.)

Looking back I can see what an odd thought that was. But that's how I
felt. It's what I knew. I was about 39 years young. And I was normal;
or so I thought.

Now that my testosterone is back in range (and my other hormone
problem -- high prolactin -- is down where it should be) I do miss the
cuddling and day-to-day affectionate gestures. (I generally feel
better. I've dropped weight. I notice women.)

I am currently separated and headed for divorce. My lack of interest
in my wife certainly played a big part in all of this. (And if that
sounds like I blame my spouse, I don't; It's hard to pick up on the
nuances of life in a Usenet posting, so I wanted to make that clear).

BTW, Viagra didn't really help me. It doesn't create interest.

If your husband hasn't been to the doctor for his ED yet, have him go
and get his testosterone checked. When I told my doc I had low libido
he checked my T and when it came back low started me on Androgel
(testosterone replacement therapy) without any additional testing --
this isn't the best approach. You would want some additional test to
find out why his T is low (assuming it can't be genuinely explained by
age).

I have a tumor on my pituitary gland which causes me to have high
prolactin which, in turn, suppresses my testosterone. As this is my
problem, I tend to see ED, low libido, etc. from that perspective. It
may or may not apply to your spouse.

Keep us posted.

FWIW, This American Life (NPR) rebroadcast a segment last year about a
guy with low testosterone that is pretty interesting (Episode 220. Go
to http://www.thislife.org/ and search for Testosterone. You may be
able to listen to it at your PC. I purchased a copy from Audible for
a few bucks). He pretty much lost interest in everything. (The guy in
the first segment reports a kind of inner peace at having low T; while
I understand what he is saying -- his situation is atypical -- low T
is not a half-step away from Nirvana.)

Susan Wachob

2005-02-03, 10:35 am

One more option- though perhaps not in Peggy's case- (or maybe- I really
have no way of knowing) might be the other order- that loss of interest
might cause ED.

Oh- and Ernest- I've got to agree. Men certainly are funny animals!

Susan

ernestnolan wrote:

> Hi,
>
> Men are funny animals.
>
> There are all kinds of odd reactions to women for various reasons so I'll
> make a guess.
>
> If he can't perform with a good erection 100% of the time, he may find it
> works better if he doesn't try very often like maybe a couple of weeks
> later. Failing in front of a spouse is tough to take no matter what her
> reaction is.
>
> ED doesn't usually happen unless the man is up in years or having lots of
> stress in his life. Medications like cholesterol or anxiety meds will really
> do a job on a man's performance. Even blood pressure meds and many more.
>
> Nerve paths essential for erections can be enhanced by viagra and the other
> pills till the nerve paths get really bad due to age or diabetes.
>
> Hormone levels can take away interest in hugging as the interest goes away
> even though intercourse may be possible if he could get interested.
>
> When nerve paths are really gone, then ED can be dealt with via injectibles
> like trimix (my favorite) or caverject.
>
> Got toget some help from a urologist that treats ED and it is best if he
> provides injectibles also. Ask before making the appointment.
>
> Read some books at Barnes and Noble or just browse if you don't buy.
>
> ernestnolan
>
> "Peggy Blankenship" <i2write@webtv.net> wrote in message
> news:23580-41F65F11-197@storefull-3138.bay.webtv.net...
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