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| My wife want it over with as soon as possible. I suffer from PE but
she says it does not bother her. She has trouble having orgasms. She
has just recently (last year) allowed me to use my mouth. She says it
does not do anything for her. A year ago one timeshe said it felt
great. Since then she says it seems I cant hit the spot. I can with my
finger rubbing in a circular motion. What techniques should I use?
(This is a serious question!)
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| William Koloff 2004-08-16, 11:09 am |
| The finger is great.You just have to experiment to find the rght spots.
Another popular item Is the Hitachi Wand. Women have used it for
thmselves for years. Do a Google search. It is about $49 and is now
available in a cordless model.
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| The Hitachi Wand is a great vibrator but its size can be a bit intimidating.
Go to an adult toy store and buy a small, remotely controlled vibrator. The
control is for the vibration intensity. There's one that looks like a silver
bullet, about 2" long, with a thin wire going to the control that's great.
Then let your wife use it on the lowest speed first. She needs to learn how
to have good orgasms herself and that will require a little fun
experimentation on her part. Hopefully she won't be embarrassed--plan on
going to Home Depot for an hour so she is all alone. Once she learns how her
body works, it'll be far easier for her to tell you how and where. It's
always different for every woman so your question is a good one.
"Don" <tiredofthis12001@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:e647cf2.0408160447.1a821486@posting.google.com...
> My wife want it over with as soon as possible. I suffer from PE but
> she says it does not bother her. She has trouble having orgasms. She
> has just recently (last year) allowed me to use my mouth. She says it
> does not do anything for her. A year ago one timeshe said it felt
> great. Since then she says it seems I cant hit the spot. I can with my
> finger rubbing in a circular motion. What techniques should I use?
> (This is a serious question!)
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| ernestnolan 2004-08-16, 7:10 pm |
| Hi,
I think is a common problem with us guys who don't seem to be able to find
our way.
I think the best thing I could suggest is for my wife to make some sounds
when things get better so I can get an idea of when I'm doing something
right. Softer or firmer is another signal that is needed.
For us guys this reminds me of driving a tank with no view outside, with the
guy with his head out the top tapping his feet on my shoulders to give me
directions.
Don't tell her I said that.
ernestnolan
"Don" <tiredofthis12001@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:e647cf2.0408160447.1a821486@posting.google.com...
> My wife want it over with as soon as possible. I suffer from PE but
> she says it does not bother her. She has trouble having orgasms. She
> has just recently (last year) allowed me to use my mouth. She says it
> does not do anything for her. A year ago one timeshe said it felt
> great. Since then she says it seems I cant hit the spot. I can with my
> finger rubbing in a circular motion. What techniques should I use?
> (This is a serious question!)
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| "ernestnolan" <emiles@stny.rr.com> wrote in
news:VQ8Uc.151136$bp1.81205@twister.nyroc.rr.com:
> Hi,
>
> I think is a common problem with us guys who don't seem to be able to
> find our way.
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> I think the best thing I could suggest is for my wife to make some
> sounds when things get better so I can get an idea of when I'm doing
> something right. Softer or firmer is another signal that is needed.
>
> For us guys this reminds me of driving a tank with no view outside,
> with the guy with his head out the top tapping his feet on my
> shoulders to give me directions.
>
> Don't tell her I said that.
>
> ernestnolan
It's nice to see men with ED that actually think of their woman's needs
too. I, unfortunately, am not in that kind of relationship. I don't think
it's just his ED bothering him. I think he hates my weight. I'm not
really that big, he just can't stand women with meat on their bones. Makes
me wonder why he married me.
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| He probably blames you for his ED, which is udder and total bullshit !!!
Herb
..> It's nice to see men with ED that actually think of their woman's needs
> too. I, unfortunately, am not in that kind of relationship. I don't
think
> it's just his ED bothering him. I think he hates my weight. I'm not
> really that big, he just can't stand women with meat on their bones.
Makes
> me wonder why he married me.
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| "Herb" <fred@aol.com> wrote in
news:FlfUc.24391$nx2.6906@newsread2.news.atl.earthlink.net:
> He probably blames you for his ED, which is udder and total bullshit
> !!!
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> Herb
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Nothing I can do, then. Oh well.
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| Amy <amy.lasher@veirzon.net> wrote in message news:<Xns9547D91CA88C0twinkie28@199.45.49.11>...
> "ernestnolan" <emiles@stny.rr.com> wrote in
Just curious, what do you wish he would do for you or what techniques?
(What do you like?)
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| Amy;
Why do take this shit from him ?
Maybe you two should go into counseling
If he doesn't want to go, find someone else.
Also, don't answer the creep that wants to know what you like.
Herb
"Amy" <amy.lasher@veirzon.net> wrote in message
news:Xns95485AEE4B799twinkie28@199.45.49.11...
> "Herb" <fred@aol.com> wrote in
> news:FlfUc.24391$nx2.6906@newsread2.news.atl.earthlink.net:
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> Nothing I can do, then. Oh well.
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| "Herb" <fred@aol.com> wrote in news:44tUc.556$2L3.257
@newsread3.news.atl.earthlink.net:
> Amy;
>
> Why do take this shit from him ?
> Maybe you two should go into counseling
> If he doesn't want to go, find someone else.
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> Also, don't answer the creep that wants to know what you like.
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> Herb
He's my husband, that's why.
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| tiredofthis12001@yahoo.com (Don) wrote in
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> Just curious, what do you wish he would do for you or what techniques?
> (What do you like?)
I'd like to be something besides ignored and that's all you need to know.
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| Garlicdude 2004-08-17, 7:12 pm |
| Amy wrote:
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> "ernestnolan" <emiles@stny.rr.com> wrote in
> news:VQ8Uc.151136$bp1.81205@twister.nyroc.rr.com:
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> It's nice to see men with ED that actually think of their woman's needs
> too. I, unfortunately, am not in that kind of relationship. I don't think
> it's just his ED bothering him. I think he hates my weight. I'm not
> really that big, he just can't stand women with meat on their bones. Makes
> me wonder why he married me.
I love women with Rubenesque figures, hate the Kate Moss stick people
look. It took a long time before my wife realized that I was serious.
Everytime I gave her a belly rub she thought that I was checking to see
how fat she was.
Thankfully she overcame her hang-up with weight and we now have a much
better sex life
Steve
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| Danny 2004-08-18, 11:08 am |
| I am sorry I was not prying. I am just wondering what some women like.
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| rabbit 2004-08-18, 7:09 pm |
| Amy <amy.lasher@veirzon.net> wrote in news:Xns9548AB9B55E72twinkie28@
199.45.49.11:
> I'd like to be something besides ignored and that's all you need to know.
Amy,
You've expressed here very effectively that you are devoted to your husband
and that you want to be closer to him. I wonder if you've talked openly
with him and in a non-threatening way about your sense that he may not be
as attracted to you as he once was; and how you would love to have more
physical and emotional intimacy with him in the form of positive and fun
activities both in bed and out, and that anatomical penetration isn't
nearly as important to you as sharing and enjoying each other's emotional
space. It sounds like you have a foundation of love to base that on and to
do it convincingly. If you've been having trouble communicating to him what
you're feeling without him becoming defensive or turning away, maybe it
would help to out a neutral and trusted third party, like a counselor or
clergy member, to help facilitate understanding. I would not be surprised
if your husband is feeling similar frustrations as you are; he may simply
be acting them out differently than you would wish or understand right now.
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