| Wakin' up 2004-11-18, 11:10 am |
| Cochese,
On Mon, 15 Nov 2004 20:34:55 -0800, Cochese
<bluehen_account2@yahoo.com> wrote:
> Vagina, oral, or handjobs all effect me too
>quickly...I can't last more than a few seconds at any (ok, maybe 30
>seconds with the handjobs). Even a second round a minute later hardly
>makes much of a difference in the time too. When masturbating alone,
>I'm able to come RIGHT away, having to work on not doing it from the
>get-go (but then, I can go for hours, cause when you're alone you can
>stop, pause, and wait as long as you like)...I can't even imagine what
>it must be like to be in a horny mood & have to BUILD UP TO an
>orgasm...I really can't fathom that. And even wet dreams (yep, still
>have them occasionally) happen right away...the moment the sexual
>parts of the dream start happening, I orgasm in real life. (I would
>love some ideas on that sadness).
I don't think I've ever heard as close a description to my own
experience as this one. I've almost always cum extremely early
(sometimes just while putting on a rubber) and have since built up
such a performance anxiety that I too avoided sexual relations for
some time. I'm starting to change that (slowly) and have recently
gotten some Cialis to give me some more confidence. I've played
around with Cialis, Viagra and Levitra and I can't say any of them
helped in the PE dept.
I too have felt that trying the kegel squeeze to keep from cumming
just made it worse. And I too feel that the tip of my penis is just
too sensitive (though the various numbing agents don't seem to help
much either.)
Further, I notice that when I'm really hard I can last a little longer
and have had some experiences over the many years when I did last what
seemed like a normal time. Once was when I was really stoned on
marijuana and my wife (now ex-wife) was giving me oral sex. I was
too stoned to a point of being uncomfortable and felt pretty out of
touch with my body in a way. But my body was going on and responding
without me so I was like an observer. End result...one of the best
orgasms I've ever had! I think because whatever I normally do wasnt'
getting in the way.
Another time was making love with a girlfriend while standing in the
shower. (dont try this at home) It was a bit difficult and maybe even
dangerous and certainly commanded all my attention just to stay
upright and not hurt either of us. I think the taking my attention
away from the sex was what made me last so long much longer than I was
usually up to.
These and a few other experiences have made me wonder if it's not just
all in my head in spite of what it seems like in my physical
experience.
A urologist I consulted prescribed paxil but it didn't seem to help
(though I didn't take it regularly) and I don't like the idea of the
drugs like that either.
I've tried a hypnotist but he was a bit flaky and I haven't found
another. I'm going to look up an acupuncturist as soon as I have a
free afternoon and I'll look deeper into the website you referenced as
well..
If I have any success I'll let you know.
From the Dept of Long Posts,
J
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