| Cochese 2004-11-16, 4:13 pm |
| If only most women were as kind as the female monkeys/dogs/etc that
these male animals have sex with. :P
I get your point, I only wish it was as easy to go with as to say. I
know the right woman makes all the difference. ...but I push away
alot of potentially great relationships because of this problem (out
of embarassment), so I never get to see. I've ended everything as (or
before) it became too impossible to avoid sex any longer. I pushed
away the love of my life (so far) for this reason. (I mean, how many
excuses can you come up with to avoid sleeping with a very pretty
girl).
(As a side note, she was incapable of having an orgasm in any way...a
possible effect of her being molested...and I come too quickly...what
a match! 
I'll go ahead and try to briefly explain my situation & my theories
about it. Hopefully this thread will continue from here.
I have 3 theories about the cause of my probelm. I've done so much
research on this topic, my head is spinning from possibilities. 1) i
just have hyper sensitive genetalia, 2) i have a learned behavior 3) a
severe (and I mean severe) urinary tract infection when I was about
11. The first one would be very depressing, since there would be
little cure for it. And from what I've read, some guys are just that
way. I have faint memories of being a little kid (I'm 25 now) and
doing kid-like sexual things (not realizing it then) and having super
quick reactions (ok...that's harder to explain than I figured..moving
on). And my first orgasm happened from placing a back massager on my
groin, over my cloths, taking only took 3 seconds to happen. I was
too innocent to know what even happened, I ran to the bathroom
thinking the feeling was a relapse of the urinary tract infection
(more on that, soon). Vagina, oral, or handjobs all effect me too
quickly...I can't last more than a few seconds at any (ok, maybe 30
seconds with the handjobs). Even a second round a minute later hardly
makes much of a difference in the time too. When masturbating alone,
I'm able to come RIGHT away, having to work on not doing it from the
get-go (but then, I can go for hours, cause when you're alone you can
stop, pause, and wait as long as you like)...I can't even imagine what
it must be like to be in a horny mood & have to BUILD UP TO an
orgasm...I really can't fathom that. And even wet dreams (yep, still
have them occasionally) happen right away...the moment the sexual
parts of the dream start happening, I orgasm in real life. (I would
love some ideas on that sadness).
The second reason is probably a strong contestant. I've only resently
realized that I flex my PC muscles (or whatever causes the penis to
lift & become a bit stiffer) all the time, and each time I do this, it
causes me to want to cum. It's an involuntary reflex now. I remember
doing this when I first started masturbating as a teenager, I think to
make my penis harder (not that I needed to) and because it caused more
intense feelings. Now, I know that I've been doing kegal exercises
pretty much my whole masturbation life...and almost everywhere you
read this is suggested to help "freeze" an oncoming orgasm, but in my
case, it seems to cause one. It's almost as if the muscle is flexing
(?) to cut off the orgasm, but is resulting in a too intense feeling
to do the job. This site here, says it's bad, and will do pretty much
what I'm experiencing.
http://www.actionlove.com/cases/case9080.htm
In my attempts to unlearn this action, I've noticed that I'm better
able to delay any orgasm, for a bit atleast. What's other people's
experience with kegal exercises???
Third, and lastly...the urinary tract infection. I have done some
reading where it is claimed that you can damage tissue from this
infection that causes your genetial to want to come immediately (I'm
not a doctor, so I forget the specifics...but I have it cut & pasted
into my notes...yes, I've taken notes! I have no idea how long
this can be a side-effect. I've started taking saw palmetto, to
improve my prostate, incase that helps, and I've incorporated
foods/vitamins into my diet that lower histamine levels, and DHT
levels, and improve serotonin levels. And I'm *trying* to cut back on
masturbating because I read that too much of it it causes DHT levels
to rise, and enlarges the prostate (I'm a definite cronic
masturbator).
I am a health nut. I eat very well, exercise regularly. If it wasn't
for this, i'd just jump on the SSRI medications and see how they work
(since they have a great track record...for now, they are a last
resort).
Sorry for the long read, if you even made it this far. I wrote much
more than I intended, but hey, it's the first time I've "openly"
talked about this - I guess I needed to get it off my chest. Thank
you.
And for e. friend...you're post reminds me how when I was a young
teenager, just becoming sexually aware, my next door neighbor (same
age as myself) convinced me to start masturbating together - not each
other, just in the same room. (It was an easy convincing, he had a
cable black box that got porno channels). After a few times, I
realized for the first time that I was coming very quick. From then
on, the anxiety has never ceased! I can just imagine the extra few
years of bliss that I could have had, if I didn't find out then. :p
On Mon, 15 Nov 2004 13:46:51 -0800, youremailfriend@webtv.net (E.
Friend) wrote:
>My boyfriend is also p.e. (premature e.) So what? The funny thing
>is...so are animals. I think his/your "machinery" is probebly working
>ABOVE average. How would you like to have the opposite problem where it
>lasts forever and still can't finish? Before you fantasize how great
>that would be...it's not. Pretty soon heaven turns to hell. Not to
>mention the lost sleep! LOL My lover and I LIKE our quickies. And when
>we deceide to "get serious" he works on me with my vibey on the outside
>'till I finish, then we "do it".
>Or sometimes we have sex later on again and he lasts longer then. But,
>really, it's no biggie.
>99% of people/couples have somethings to overcome. Or deal with. Don't
>make a big deal of our imperfections.
>One of my imperfections.......I just never grew big boobs. And I refuse
>to go under a scalple and have silly balls inserted in. So, some men may
>not find me as attractive as the silicone hottie with artificial
>breasts. My cute little real boobies can't compete. It's a sad state of
>affairs when a virile quick comming man and a woman with natural breasts
>feel like there's something wrong with us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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