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| We have rec'de many cards, calls and e-mails regarding the passing of
our daughter, Kathie Jean. I indicated to several that I would provide
a response in an open manner on ASMS. please excuse any appearance of
labor in my words. As I write this, our granddaughter, Stacy, is in
the other room with my Betty. It is a grandmother-granddaughter
routine that Kathie also participated in that must be continued on.
To all,
Earlier and mostly likely not coherently, I indicated that I would
communicate the some particulars as best we know them of our Kathie's
sudden passing. My words are labored, so please abide.
Our daughter, Kathie Jean Irving-Kadison, the third and youngest child
of three, passed away on April 18, 2005. Her heart just stopped during
the wee hours of the morning.
She was born at the St. Francis Hospital in Lynwood, California, on
July 13, 1964, and lived her 40 years in Downey. She was married
almost 11 years to a very devoted husband, David. Together they
brought a son, Dexter Clayton, now 9-years old, into their world. He
become a delight to his extended family and centerpiece and very clear
reflection of his parents' life.
She was beginning to enjoy the fruits of her years of experience and
labors coming to fruition in the insurance business and had recently
joined a firm where she immediately had an impact upon her the firm's
owner as well as the other employees, so much so that she was being
groomed to assume more responsibilities in the company's operations
and management. And much to her delight, she was busily preparing for
that future. There was no stress, only excitement.
Her life was filled with making and maintaining friendships. A list of
which dates from her early years, from kindergarten on. Her charity of
time and efforts to help others was fathomless and timeless. she just
had that way about, no questions asked, "just do it."
While Betty and I and her brothers Jack and David and Jack's daughter,
Stacy, were shocked and deeply saddened by the quick and unexpected
events of Kathie's passing, we all have been filled to our brim with
her zest for life, her humor, her nurturing nature, her absolute
brilliance. Now we must circle in support of Kathie's husband and
their son, Dexter, to assure that life goes on as she would have
wanted it.
We will adjust to her absence from our close family circle. The void
will be hard to fill, but it must be. The memories are so rich and
indelibly etched in our souls. They are so deserving of being shared
in the future because of the high principles she lived by. We were so
very proud of her and loved her so dearly.
The following was printed in the program for her funeral, attended by
over three hundred people, and there would have been more had the news
spread more quickly. As follows:
Kathie Jean Kadison
For each member of her family, to all of her dear friends, with those
whom she joined hands, her life was filled with simple words and
unselfish deeds of caring and loving. Never to let a moment pass, she
would reach out and touch each and all by sharing the joys of living
and doing for others. Her life was and still is a celebration of
being involved to the fullest in every aspect of her family, her
friends and her community.
Her pride was quiet and deep as she worked to create a wholesome home
for her husband, Cad, and son, Dexter. She achieved that.
Her care of and loyalty to her friends was never shaken as she kept
abreast of their joys and sorrows, their successes and challenges. She
was the hand that lifted, the shoulder that consoled, the heart that
felt.
Her way of bringing smiles where pains once dwelt was strengthened by
the foundation of her beliefs and faith, there was always a good to be
found in everyone she knew. Gently, she made sure the light was on
others when most deserved. Her humor always kept things in
perspective, there was no hurt that could not be healed, no problem
that could be solved, no space for others that could not be broadened.
Her life was one of inclusion.
Now she must move on and let those most dear to her enjoy the memories
she has so generously given so that all can prevail in their lives and
futures.
Keep a place in your hearts for her, she has earned it well, as she
now moves stars around in the heavens above us all.
As ever,
Donn
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| On Wed, 27 Apr 2005 06:54:29 +1000, jils <jils@spambegone.com> wrote:
>you sound strong, donn
>that's a hard way to sound right now, isn't it.
>love to you and yours, keep that strength.
>jils
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Strong? Not quite. Just wanted to share, and share I must.
Donn
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| Lynne 2005-04-27, 11:49 am |
| We appreciate your choosing us with whom to share.
Most of us want to know how YOU are doing now, how Betty is doing, how
Kathie's family is doing.
You're sounding like our Donn, a very tired and heartsick Donn, but our
Donn nonetheless, and that makes me for one feel better.
Don't rush your feelings. You're old enough to know that time does
heal most things, but you have to give it a chance.
BTW, nothing personal about the "old enough" phrase in the previous
sentence. ;-)
- Lynne
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| On 27 Apr 2005 08:59:33 -0700, "Lynne" <oldermama53@aol.com> wrote:
>We appreciate your choosing us with whom to share.
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>Most of us want to know how YOU are doing now, how Betty is doing, how
>Kathie's family is doing.
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>You're sounding like our Donn, a very tired and heartsick Donn, but our
>Donn nonetheless, and that makes me for one feel better.
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>Don't rush your feelings. You're old enough to know that time does
>heal most things, but you have to give it a chance.
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>BTW, nothing personal about the "old enough" phrase in the previous
>sentence. ;-)
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> - Lynne
Lynne,
In many things of life, we all, you and I and others, occasionally
must persevere. I need not say that as if others don't know, but to
say it as to assure all that we all know.
Betty and I are indeed in a deep grieving process. And for sure, we
are leaning on each other and moving ahead, slowly. We have a family
to consider. Things take time. And I am old enough to know it.
Kathie had hundreds of close friends and an unbelievable/incredible
core of loved ones and "closest" of lifetime friends, all of whom will
move ahead as she would have it. When she chose to touch another, she
went right to their heart and soul. We are so proud of her.
In regard to my ASMS family, I care.
Donn
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| <tight, squeezy hug>
- L.
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| John Cawston 2005-04-28, 10:52 pm |
| DCI wrote:
> We have rec'de many cards, calls and e-mails regarding the passing of
> our daughter, Kathie Jean. I indicated to several that I would provide
> a response in an open manner on ASMS. please excuse any appearance of
> labor in my words. As I write this, our granddaughter, Stacy, is in
> the other room with my Betty. It is a grandmother-granddaughter
> routine that Kathie also participated in that must be continued on.
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So sorry to hear of your sad loss. My apologies for not
responding sooner.
Heather
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