Alzheimers support - Dear August Repetitive

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Dear August Repetitive

Barb Boland

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

Hi August Repetitive & Others,

You are just scaring me now - of what is to come! Your parent or grandparent
must be in one of the last phases of this horrible disease. Please, God,
there has to be a soft place for our parents to land. This disease is
insidious - and I pray that there will be a cure soon. Not only to save our
parents (grandparents) ourselves. Let us not forget that this horrible
disease is heriditary.

Barb

Tumbleweed

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

"Barb Boland" <barb.boland@sympatico.ca> wrote in message
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> Hi August Repetitive & Others,
>
> You are just scaring me now - of what is to come! Your parent or
> grandparent
> must be in one of the last phases of this horrible disease. Please, God,
> there has to be a soft place for our parents to land. This disease is
> insidious - and I pray that there will be a cure soon. Not only to save
> our
> parents (grandparents) ourselves. Let us not forget that this horrible
> disease is heriditary.
>
> Barb
>

No, that type of behaviour is later middle stage, not the last stages.
And apart from a few specific and rare types (usually the early onset type),
Az *is not* inherited.

--
Tumbleweed

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lee

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

I'm not worrying about the hereditary aspects of it - got my fingers crossed
that they'll have better treatments/a cure before then - and if not, oh
well.... I've got WAY more than enough to deal with at the present time
without expending energy worrying about things I can't control/change. My
partner is somewhat more concerned about it - but he's more than a decade
older than I, so I suppose that's why.

The one thing to remember about even the most unpleasant of behaviours, I
find, is that this too shall pass.... that is the ONLY thing that I find the
least bit positive about all of this - that when confronted with a new
behaviour, I can be quite sure that it will not last .... of course,
realistically, quite often the ~next thing~ is generally not an improvement
either .... but I prefer not to focus on that either! And sometimes,
truthfully, the new 'developments' (not the right word, since they all come
from LOSSES, I suppose) .... are sometimes easier to deal with.

"Barb Boland" <barb.boland@sympatico.ca> wrote in message
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> Hi August Repetitive & Others,
>
> You are just scaring me now - of what is to come! Your parent or
> grandparent
> must be in one of the last phases of this horrible disease. Please, God,
> there has to be a soft place for our parents to land. This disease is
> insidious - and I pray that there will be a cure soon. Not only to save
> our
> parents (grandparents) ourselves. Let us not forget that this horrible
> disease is heriditary.
>
> Barb
>
>
>

Evelyn Ruut

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

"Barb Boland" <barb.boland@sympatico.ca> wrote in message
news:ifvie.2470$dS3.572790@news20.bellglobal.com...
> Hi August Repetitive & Others,
>
> You are just scaring me now - of what is to come! Your parent or
> grandparent
> must be in one of the last phases of this horrible disease. Please, God,
> there has to be a soft place for our parents to land. This disease is
> insidious - and I pray that there will be a cure soon. Not only to save
> our
> parents (grandparents) ourselves. Let us not forget that this horrible
> disease is heriditary.
>
> Barb

Dear Barb,

It isn't a definite inherited thing. There is an inherited factor, but it
isn't always the way.

There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers, but tell me
please, is there some "good" way to die?

Yet we are all going to die at some point.

It is not worthwhile to dwell on it if it destroys the enjoyment of the life
we have now.

--

Best Regards,
Evelyn

(to reply to me personally, remove 'sox')

Steve...has tiger firmly by tail

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

"There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers"

I'm sure there are but Alzheimers robs a person of all dignity. and
"living with AZ is near impossible without a support system.

"but tell me
please, is there some "good" way to die?"

at 94, shot by your 30 yr old girlfreind's jealous spouse?

This journey scares the bejees out of me,but the information gleemed
here from all of you is a powerful help... it's said that misery loves
company, but I wish that none of us were in this club

Tumbleweed

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

"Evelyn Ruut" <mama-lionsox@hvc.rr.com> wrote in message
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>

>
> There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers, but tell me
> please, is there some "good" way to die?
>

I can think of some but I'm not going to post them here :-)

--
Tumbleweed

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Evelyn Ruut

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

"Steve...has tiger firmly by tail" <ISteveador@aol.com> wrote in message
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> "There are probably many worse ways to die than alzheimers"
>
> I'm sure there are but Alzheimers robs a person of all dignity. and
> "living with AZ is near impossible without a support system.
>
> "but tell me
> please, is there some "good" way to die?"
>
> at 94, shot by your 30 yr old girlfreind's jealous spouse?
>
> This journey scares the bejees out of me,but the information gleemed
> here from all of you is a powerful help... it's said that misery loves
> company, but I wish that none of us were in this club

Too true.

My father is 93, he feels like s--t most every day. There isn't anything
wrong with his mind (at the moment). If he had a 30 year old girlfriend he
probably forgot what he was supposed to do with her. When I talk to him
he cries and wishes he could go.

On the other hand, my mother in law who was 84, was somewhat unaware due to
her illness. Others did the worrying for her.

--

Best Regards,
Evelyn

(to reply to me personally, remove 'sox')

Songbird

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

Yes, quietly, in one's sleep, after a long, happy and productive life,
secure in the knowledge that you have loved and been loved. My
great-grandfather simply went to bed one night and did not wake up in the
morning. It was a massive coronary, and the doctor said if he was aware of
any pain at all, it was just a minute or two.

Give me that over cancer, ALS, MS, or AD any day.

Songbird

"Tumbleweed" <thisaccountneverread@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> "Evelyn Ruut" <mama-lionsox@hvc.rr.com> wrote in message
> news:yPvie.4977$mt.2925@twister.nyc.rr.com...
>
>
> I can think of some but I'm not going to post them here :-)
>
> --
> Tumbleweed
>
> email replies not necessary but to contact use;
> tumbleweednews at hotmail dot com
>

Mary_Gordon@tvo.org

2005-05-18, 10:55 am

I agree! My grandfather died at 93, having outlived two wives (my
grandmother who he was married to for 57 years, and then a lovely
neighbour lady he married in his 80's), three children, twelve
grandchildren, twenty two great grandchildren. Still living
independently in his own house, still had his marbles, still fairly
active (he only gave up the car at 91). Got pneumonia and it carried
him off quickly and gently.

Doesn't get much better than that. If that were my fate and I knew it,
I'd do cartwheels! I think everyone's nightmares include any slowly
degenerative illness that makes one dependent.

Mary G.

augustwestern

2005-05-18, 5:59 pm

"Tumbleweed" <thisaccountneverread@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> "Barb Boland" <barb.boland@sympatico.ca> wrote in message
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[vbcol=seagreen]
> No, that type of behaviour is later middle stage, not the last stages.
> And apart from a few specific and rare types (usually the early onset
type),
> Az *is not* inherited.
>
> --
> Tumbleweed

Tumbleweed is correct. My MIL is in later middle stage. She knows my name
and her children's names consistently but often doesn't recognize her
grandkids. She really doesn't remember anyone else. She has zero memory of
her Drs or various health problems. She can't take care of her own meds and
won't even ask for medicine when she hurts. It's pretty much up to us to
figure out what's going on with her. She can't use the phone or microwave or
prepare any food. She can load the dishwasher and unload the washing
machine. She can't do the opposite of either task. She can make a bed better
than any army drill sergeant would require but would never change the sheets
unless helped. She has no sense of time and her days and nights are always
mixed up. She won't drink water unless you sit there and watch her. At least
her bowel function is good, she doesn't wander and she is currently past the
suspicious and accusatory stage. Thanks for reading my spiel. AW

Mary_Gordon@tvo.org

2005-05-20, 5:55 pm