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| The Neuro told my hubby that he has MCI "in all areas" the amnestic type. He
will not be able to work or drive. When John started to get upset she told
him it was up to the DMV to test him it was out of her hands. He seemed
shocked by the diagnosis and cried most of the drive to the apt. I am going
to let things settle down over Christmas then will start sorting thru things
at the apt and moving what we want to keep up to the house.
He will be given anti-psychotic drugs to keep him calm but nothing else.
They are not sure if this will develop into AD but want to hold off on the
Aricept until it does? The doctor told me to get us settled as soon as I can
and try to get him into a routine. He kept asking her what can be done to
stop this and the poor woman had to keep telling him that right now there is
nothing they can do to help him.
Merry Christmas and here we go
LJ
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| Tumbleweed 2005-12-17, 12:54 pm |
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"LJ" <lppnp@xyahoo.com> wrote in message
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> The Neuro told my hubby that he has MCI "in all areas" the amnestic type.
> He
> will not be able to work or drive. When John started to get upset she told
> him it was up to the DMV to test him it was out of her hands. He seemed
> shocked by the diagnosis and cried most of the drive to the apt. I am
> going
> to let things settle down over Christmas then will start sorting thru
> things
> at the apt and moving what we want to keep up to the house.
> He will be given anti-psychotic drugs to keep him calm but nothing else.
> They are not sure if this will develop into AD but want to hold off on the
> Aricept until it does? The doctor told me to get us settled as soon as I
> can
> and try to get him into a routine. He kept asking her what can be done to
> stop this and the poor woman had to keep telling him that right now there
> is
> nothing they can do to help him.
>
> Merry Christmas and here we go
> LJ
>
MCI?
Good luck anyway.
--
Tumbleweed
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| Mild Cognitive Impairment
some think it is a kind of AD some think it is different. Those that have it
some get AD others just have this. He has all of the symptoms of AD but not
as bad. He is 56 yrs old and we don't know family history so will have to
wait and see.
LJ
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> MCI?
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> Good luck anyway.
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> Tumbleweed
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| LJ i just finished reading "Alzheimer's, A Love Story" by Ann Davidson.
She went through sort of what you are going now. Her 50ish husband
scientist professor for 30 yrs in Stanford Univ diagnosed with AD. I
reccommend this book to you.
LJ wrote:
> The Neuro told my hubby that he has MCI "in all areas" the amnestic type. He
> will not be able to work or drive. When John started to get upset she told
> him it was up to the DMV to test him it was out of her hands. He seemed
> shocked by the diagnosis and cried most of the drive to the apt. I am going
> to let things settle down over Christmas then will start sorting thru things
> at the apt and moving what we want to keep up to the house.
> He will be given anti-psychotic drugs to keep him calm but nothing else.
> They are not sure if this will develop into AD but want to hold off on the
> Aricept until it does? The doctor told me to get us settled as soon as I can
> and try to get him into a routine. He kept asking her what can be done to
> stop this and the poor woman had to keep telling him that right now there is
> nothing they can do to help him.
>
> Merry Christmas and here we go
> LJ
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| Tumbleweed 2005-12-17, 5:59 pm |
| "LJ" <lppnp@xyahoo.com> wrote in message
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> Mild Cognitive Impairment
> some think it is a kind of AD some think it is different. Those that have
> it
> some get AD others just have this. He has all of the symptoms of AD but
> not
> as bad. He is 56 yrs old and we don't know family history so will have to
> wait and see.
>
Any reason why you hold off the Aricept until it gets worse? AFAIK it has
few side effects, and might well have an impact? If it does, better it has
the impact now, when your husband might rewind a year or two (say) from now,
rather than after 2 or 3 years deterioration and he rewinds a year or two,
but still worse than where he is today?
IME (and also anecdotally repeated here) the effects are very quick, you'd
know within a week or two whether it was making a difference.
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Tumbleweed
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| thank you. I will look for it
LJ
"Nati" <cbet17@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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> LJ i just finished reading "Alzheimer's, A Love Story" by Ann Davidson.
> She went through sort of what you are going now. Her 50ish husband
> scientist professor for 30 yrs in Stanford Univ diagnosed with AD. I
> reccommend this book to you.
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| I don't understand her reasoning either. I am going to talk this thru with
his PCP. The neuro told me to my face to expect this to get worse. She said
the drugs only last 6-9 months but I have read many times that taking them
for years can help some for some people
LJ
"Tumbleweed" <thisaccountneverread@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> "LJ" <lppnp@xyahoo.com> wrote in message
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> Any reason why you hold off the Aricept until it gets worse? AFAIK it has
> few side effects, and might well have an impact? If it does, better it has
> the impact now, when your husband might rewind a year or two (say) from
now,
> rather than after 2 or 3 years deterioration and he rewinds a year or two,
> but still worse than where he is today?
>
> IME (and also anecdotally repeated here) the effects are very quick, you'd
> know within a week or two whether it was making a difference.
>
> --
> Tumbleweed
>
> email replies not necessary but to contact use;
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| Evelyn Ruut 2005-12-17, 5:59 pm |
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"LJ" <lppnp@xyahoo.com> wrote in message
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>I don't understand her reasoning either. I am going to talk this thru with
> his PCP. The neuro told me to my face to expect this to get worse. She
> said
> the drugs only last 6-9 months but I have read many times that taking them
> for years can help some for some people
>
> LJ
For what it is worth, our experience was very good with the Aricept. They
started her on it right away, at a smaller dosage, then raised it after a
few months to double the initial amount. The effects were very clear, and
made more evident when after about two years, our doctor wanted to switch
her to another similar drug, which had to be started again at a very small
dose.
The very first day she was off the Aricept and started the small dose of the
new drug she was noticeably confused and mixed up. After a week of that, I
called the doctor and said "if it ain't broke, we shouldn't try to fix
it.... please let her have the Aricept back" and he did. Again the
results were noticeable, and we had the person we knew, back again. She
was on it for the entire 4 years until she died last spring. It definitely
helped a lot. It isn't a cure, but it helps.
Best Regards,
Evelyn Ruut
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| Tumbleweed 2005-12-17, 5:59 pm |
| Well, for my father it worked for 3 or 4 years, and likely would have worked
for longer, and again anecdotally others here have reported similar, so its
foolish to believe there is a set limit.
I will get worse, if its Az, she is right on that, much worse, but it
*might* help that time be many months, maybe even a year or three, away.
Plus, with the only side effect I've read being nausea, and that in 10%
only, and that mostly evadable by splitting the tablet and eating at the
right time, and with a quick time to see if it works (It doesnt work for
everyone), its really hard to see why you wouldnt try it.
One other thing, suppose it does only work for 1 year. Would you rather have
that year now, putting your husband much closer to 'normality', than in say
3 years time, putting him from maybe 'pretty bad', back to 'bad'. This all
assumes it works for him of course, but if it doesnt, maybe better to find
that out now rather than be resting your hopes on it in 3 years time and
being very dissapointed?
Anyway, good luck whatever you do.
--
Tumbleweed
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"LJ" <lppnp@xyahoo.com> wrote in message
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>I don't understand her reasoning either. I am going to talk this thru with
> his PCP. The neuro told me to my face to expect this to get worse. She
> said
> the drugs only last 6-9 months but I have read many times that taking them
> for years can help some for some people
>
> LJ
> "Tumbleweed" <thisaccountneverread@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> now,
>
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| thank you for that info. I will push harder when we see his regular doctor
LindaJean
"Evelyn Ruut" <mama-lionsox@hvc.rr.com> wrote in message
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>
> For what it is worth, our experience was very good with the Aricept. They
> started her on it right away, at a smaller dosage, then raised it after a
> few months to double the initial amount. The effects were very clear,
and
> made more evident when after about two years, our doctor wanted to switch
> her to another similar drug, which had to be started again at a very small
> dose.
>
> The very first day she was off the Aricept and started the small dose of
the
> new drug she was noticeably confused and mixed up. After a week of that,
I
> called the doctor and said "if it ain't broke, we shouldn't try to fix
> it.... please let her have the Aricept back" and he did. Again the
> results were noticeable, and we had the person we knew, back again. She
> was on it for the entire 4 years until she died last spring. It
definitely
> helped a lot. It isn't a cure, but it helps.
>
> Best Regards,
> Evelyn Ruut
>
>
>
>
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| yes I agree with you and that Neuro does not specialize in AD
I will see what I can do for him because I sure would rather have my husband
for just a bit.
LJ
"Tumbleweed" <thisaccountneverread@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> Well, for my father it worked for 3 or 4 years, and likely would have
worked
> for longer, and again anecdotally others here have reported similar, so
its
> foolish to believe there is a set limit.
>
> I will get worse, if its Az, she is right on that, much worse, but it
> *might* help that time be many months, maybe even a year or three, away.
> Plus, with the only side effect I've read being nausea, and that in 10%
> only, and that mostly evadable by splitting the tablet and eating at the
> right time, and with a quick time to see if it works (It doesnt work for
> everyone), its really hard to see why you wouldnt try it.
>
> One other thing, suppose it does only work for 1 year. Would you rather
have
> that year now, putting your husband much closer to 'normality', than in
say
> 3 years time, putting him from maybe 'pretty bad', back to 'bad'. This all
> assumes it works for him of course, but if it doesnt, maybe better to find
> that out now rather than be resting your hopes on it in 3 years time and
> being very dissapointed?
>
> Anyway, good luck whatever you do.
>
> --
> Tumbleweed
>
> email replies not necessary but to contact use;
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| Karen 2005-12-18, 10:58 am |
| "LJ" <lppnp@xyahoo.com> wrote in message
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> I don't understand her reasoning either. I am going to talk this thru with
> his PCP. The neuro told me to my face to expect this to get worse. She
said
> the drugs only last 6-9 months but I have read many times that taking them
> for years can help some for some people
>
LJ, the textbooks still say 6-9 months but my MIL's current doc has told me
to expect an obvious deterioration if she came off of Aricept and she's been
on it 5 years. I think the study results have been skewed because some
people it helps a lot and some apparaently need a different drug.
I'd push for trying it and preserving what you can now. But it sounds like
you'd benefit from a consultation with someone that specializes in AD and
dementia. Sometimes it seems like you practically need a specialist for
your left toenail, but this really is a case where a specialist will know
more about how to preserve what's there and what to expect.
Karen
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| michelle 2005-12-18, 10:58 am |
| Knowing what I know now re Doctors I would not rely on one Drs
opinion,in fact I would be asking how many patients and with what
results she has treated other patients without the aricept and with
what results.I would be seing an expert in the field of Dementia and I
know for sure I would be insistent on the Aricept being prescribed.
Do you have the legal papers organised Enduring power of Attorney and
Guardianship etc.It is a must while your husband can still be aware
cognitively able to make the decisions on who will care for his future
needs both financial and medical.Well this is what required in
Australia.
Kind Regards
Michelle
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|
| we had papers drawn up and he canceled the appt to go in and sign them. I am
now making a new appt for signing with 2 of my kids as backup for hubby in
case I die
LJ
"michelle" <feistylady01@gmail.com> wrote in message
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> Knowing what I know now re Doctors I would not rely on one Drs
> opinion,in fact I would be asking how many patients and with what
> results she has treated other patients without the aricept and with
> what results.I would be seing an expert in the field of Dementia and I
> know for sure I would be insistent on the Aricept being prescribed.
> Do you have the legal papers organised Enduring power of Attorney and
> Guardianship etc.It is a must while your husband can still be aware
> cognitively able to make the decisions on who will care for his future
> needs both financial and medical.Well this is what required in
> Australia.
> Kind Regards
> Michelle
>
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| Mary_Gordon@tvo.org 2005-12-18, 10:58 am |
| Hi Michelle - I would agree entirely. I answer Alzheimer's questions
for allexperts.com and I constantly get questions from people about
their loved ones treatment - and it continues to amaze me how many
family doctors know nothing about AD. Very often the family doctor is
hopelessly out of date, dismissive, unhelpful, or just plain ignorant
about the illness. Many times the person is never sent to a specialist
for diagnosis or assessment, the family is never really informed about
the prognosis or the treatment options - and as a consequence, the
caregivers end up without the help or knowledge they need to make
decisions or to get ready for what is coming. It borders on criminal -
especially for people in the US who really need to be well prepared
given the convoluted rules around insurance, medicaid, estate planning
etc.
We were very fortunate in that our family doctor immediately sent my
MIL to a specialist in dementias, and he not only did a full physical
and cognitive assessment, but put us in contact with social services (a
geriatric social worker who knew the ins and outs of everything that
was available and could help us access all kinds of services we
wouldn't have known about, guided us to the various kinds of care
facilities, gave us advice about the local good ones, waiting lists
etc. ).
I live in Canada, so the insurance thing is not an issue at all here -
and paying for care is also not as huge a deal - our universal health
care insurance covers everyone, and there are lots of non-profit homes
that are really terrific (they are also quite inexpensive compared to
the US because so much of the medical care is covered by our insurance,
so you are only paying a fraction of the total cost). Going into a care
facilty doesn't bankrupt the family. Many not for profit homes charge
fees based on income, not net worth.
In many places in the world (including where I live in Ontario, Canada)
powers of attorney are split into two documents - one for financial
matters and one for personal care decisions, and a family needs both to
manage the affairs of someone who is impaired. You absolutely MUST have
the ability to handle both aspects of care, or the government steps in,
and its messy and expensive to straighten out (and usually involves
going to court etc.). I have a friend who was not aware his mother had
signed a powers of attorney for her care, and put them in her safety
deposit box. She had a stroke, and he ended up having to go to court to
be able to manage her affairs. It was extremely expensive and nasty -
the judge was quite insulting, even though the mother was semi-comatose
- inferring that her children were after her money etc. After the fact,
and after spending all that money for lawyers etc. they found the
original powers of attorney. Ay yi yi! If only the mother had made sure
her children had copies and were aware of what she had done!
Mary G.
Toronto
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| michelle 2005-12-18, 12:54 pm |
| Oh Dear what a mess that would be,When we did all the paperwork with
Mum we covered Dad
as well we worked it that with Mums finances that while dad is able he
handles that if he is not ever able my sister and I take over from him.
With the guardianship my sister and I hold the power over Dad and Mum
to make all the medical decisions.
That of course is if the so called powers that be(Drs,Nursing
Homes)takes any notice of it.
In my case my sister has trouble coping with this disease and Dad
leaves all the decisions up to me but I always refer to him before I
make any major decisions.
Kind Regards
Michelle
| |
|
| My uncle was diagnosed with AD here in Puerto Rico then went to Boston
where his son lives and is going through all sorts of tests physical as
well as psychological, he's been there twice this year, and he just
came back saying the doctors there had found a window of opportunity
that what he has may not be AD. He is having a happy Christmas. One has
to seek the experts. Medicine is very specific. The Alzheimer's
Association can also help pointing to the best doctors in your area.
You must be very busy and tired so take your time, whatever will be
will be. Enjoy the present, enjoy this Christmas the best you can. Turn
on the Christmas lights and the Christmas music. Concentate in the many
things you can do not in those you can't do.
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| carolinasongbird@gmail.com 2005-12-18, 6:02 pm |
| Mom's doc said same thing -- that Aricept would have lessening effect
after a while, at which a point they could step up the dose and then
later on add on Namenda or one of the other drugs. My theory was "why
wait?" Preserve the highest quality of life possible. And who know what
may happen several months down the road? Worst case scenario, Mom dies
of a geart attack or stroke. (She has high cholesterol, high blood
pressure and diabetes as well, so that could easily happen.) Best case
scenario: Someone comes up with a new drug that will help or even cure.
Songbird
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| the issue that keeps biting us in the butt with my MILs POA is that they are
both joint... hubby and one of his sisters both, in theory, have to agree.
It's quite possible MIL MEANT one or the other - but the lawyer (not an
elder law attorney; I suspect if he had been, he'd have known better) made
it joint....
it bites - causes arguments, delays and all sorts of uneccessary hassles ...
and given our situation, where WE'RE the ones living with her and providing
all of her care, having someone more than an hour away that visits once a
month at MOST that we have to get signatures and so on from is SUCH a PAIN
<Mary_Gordon@tvo.org> wrote in message
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> Hi Michelle - I would agree entirely. I answer Alzheimer's questions
> for allexperts.com and I constantly get questions from people about
> their loved ones treatment - and it continues to amaze me how many
> family doctors know nothing about AD. Very often the family doctor is
> hopelessly out of date, dismissive, unhelpful, or just plain ignorant
> about the illness. Many times the person is never sent to a specialist
> for diagnosis or assessment, the family is never really informed about
> the prognosis or the treatment options - and as a consequence, the
> caregivers end up without the help or knowledge they need to make
> decisions or to get ready for what is coming. It borders on criminal -
> especially for people in the US who really need to be well prepared
> given the convoluted rules around insurance, medicaid, estate planning
> etc.
>
> We were very fortunate in that our family doctor immediately sent my
> MIL to a specialist in dementias, and he not only did a full physical
> and cognitive assessment, but put us in contact with social services (a
> geriatric social worker who knew the ins and outs of everything that
> was available and could help us access all kinds of services we
> wouldn't have known about, guided us to the various kinds of care
> facilities, gave us advice about the local good ones, waiting lists
> etc. ).
>
> I live in Canada, so the insurance thing is not an issue at all here -
> and paying for care is also not as huge a deal - our universal health
> care insurance covers everyone, and there are lots of non-profit homes
> that are really terrific (they are also quite inexpensive compared to
> the US because so much of the medical care is covered by our insurance,
> so you are only paying a fraction of the total cost). Going into a care
> facilty doesn't bankrupt the family. Many not for profit homes charge
> fees based on income, not net worth.
>
> In many places in the world (including where I live in Ontario, Canada)
> powers of attorney are split into two documents - one for financial
> matters and one for personal care decisions, and a family needs both to
> manage the affairs of someone who is impaired. You absolutely MUST have
> the ability to handle both aspects of care, or the government steps in,
> and its messy and expensive to straighten out (and usually involves
> going to court etc.). I have a friend who was not aware his mother had
> signed a powers of attorney for her care, and put them in her safety
> deposit box. She had a stroke, and he ended up having to go to court to
> be able to manage her affairs. It was extremely expensive and nasty -
> the judge was quite insulting, even though the mother was semi-comatose
> - inferring that her children were after her money etc. After the fact,
> and after spending all that money for lawyers etc. they found the
> original powers of attorney. Ay yi yi! If only the mother had made sure
> her children had copies and were aware of what she had done!
>
> Mary G.
> Toronto
>
| |
| Mary_Gordon@tvo.org 2005-12-18, 6:02 pm |
| Lee wrote: the issue that keeps biting us in the butt with my MILs POA
is that they are
both joint... hubby and one of his sisters both, in theory, have to
agree.
It's quite possible MIL MEANT one or the other - but the lawyer (not an
elder law attorney; I suspect if he had been, he'd have known better)
made
it joint....
Mary responds: My father was smart about his estate etc. - he made me
the sole POA, executor etc. My brother resented the fact I was in
charge, but I don't know what would have happened if Dad had done
anything else. As it was, my brother was just this side of impossible
to deal with, and was a huge pain in the neck every inch of the way.
Just to give you an example, when my father's house was up for sale,
the agent told me to expect multiple offers over one weekend, and I
told my brother - who then went out of town and didn't bother to let
me know how to contact him (I had no idea where he was or who he was
with). He had a huge snit fit when he came back and the house was sold
(despite the fact the offer was everything we had hoped for and then
some, and would have expired in 24 hours).
If I had needed his royal permission for every move, the estate would
never have gotten settled, and as it was, it took more than a year to
wind up. He was just awful during the entire thing, wouldn't sign
papers, wouldn't help with anything, created all kinds of problems and
work, and was a general purpose miserable sod - I think he was just in
total denial that my father could ever die, let alone that his house
and possessions would have to be dealt with and dispersed.
I can't imagine having to deal with my brother while my father was in
his final hours over medical decisions. Argh!! So, thank you, Dad, for
not making it joint!!!!
M.
| |
|
| I just now found out my husband had been online messing with our health
insurance coverage more than 2 weeks ago. I caught him trying to figure out
what he had changed and trying to put it back. It takes very little to
damage a lot
LJ
"michelle" <feistylady01@gmail.com> wrote in message
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> Oh Dear what a mess that would be,When we did all the paperwork with
> Mum we covered Dad
> as well we worked it that with Mums finances that while dad is able he
> handles that if he is not ever able my sister and I take over from him.
> With the guardianship my sister and I hold the power over Dad and Mum
> to make all the medical decisions.
> That of course is if the so called powers that be(Drs,Nursing
> Homes)takes any notice of it.
> In my case my sister has trouble coping with this disease and Dad
> leaves all the decisions up to me but I always refer to him before I
> make any major decisions.
> Kind Regards
> Michelle
>
| |
|
| Thank you, I am trying hard to just let this all go for a few days and count
my blessings
LJ
"Nati" <cbet17@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1134937608.635057.44760@z14g2000cwz.googlegroups.com...
> My uncle was diagnosed with AD here in Puerto Rico then went to Boston
> where his son lives and is going through all sorts of tests physical as
> well as psychological, he's been there twice this year, and he just
> came back saying the doctors there had found a window of opportunity
> that what he has may not be AD. He is having a happy Christmas. One has
> to seek the experts. Medicine is very specific. The Alzheimer's
> Association can also help pointing to the best doctors in your area.
>
> You must be very busy and tired so take your time, whatever will be
> will be. Enjoy the present, enjoy this Christmas the best you can. Turn
> on the Christmas lights and the Christmas music. Concentate in the many
> things you can do not in those you can't do.
>
| |
| Lonnie Glenn 2005-12-21, 11:05 am |
| Our prayers are with you. It is heartbreaking to see someone you love lose
touch with reality.
On the other side of all this, you will be stronger. It is hard to see that
now, but on the other side of struggle, there is strength. Many times our
pain can be turned into blessings and encouragement for others and that is
what sharing our lives is all about - helping and loving others who are in
need and so desperately need us.
God bless and happy holidays.
"LJ" <lppnp@xyahoo.com> wrote in message
news:z4Vof.5147$Tg2.5130@newsread1.news.pas.earthlink.net...
> The Neuro told my hubby that he has MCI "in all areas" the amnestic type.
> He
> will not be able to work or drive. When John started to get upset she told
> him it was up to the DMV to test him it was out of her hands. He seemed
> shocked by the diagnosis and cried most of the drive to the apt. I am
> going
> to let things settle down over Christmas then will start sorting thru
> things
> at the apt and moving what we want to keep up to the house.
> He will be given anti-psychotic drugs to keep him calm but nothing else.
> They are not sure if this will develop into AD but want to hold off on the
> Aricept until it does? The doctor told me to get us settled as soon as I
> can
> and try to get him into a routine. He kept asking her what can be done to
> stop this and the poor woman had to keep telling him that right now there
> is
> nothing they can do to help him.
>
> Merry Christmas and here we go
> LJ
>
>
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| Jo Ann Malina 2005-12-22, 10:58 am |
| michelle <feistylady01@gmail.com> is alleged to have said:
> Oh Dear what a mess that would be,When we did all the paperwork with
> Mum we covered Dad
> as well we worked it that with Mums finances that while dad is able he
> handles that if he is not ever able my sister and I take over from him.
It's important with powers of attorney that there be a backup or two
in case the primary person can't or doesn't want to continue. If there
are backups named, the primary can just resign and the next person in
line take over. Otherwise, there must be more lawyers and paperwork
and maybe even guardianship hearings if the person's condition has
deteriorated in the meantime.
> With the guardianship my sister and I hold the power over Dad and Mum
> to make all the medical decisions.
> That of course is if the so called powers that be(Drs,Nursing
> Homes)takes any notice of it.
Letters from lawyers can be very persuasive.
> In my case my sister has trouble coping with this disease and Dad
> leaves all the decisions up to me but I always refer to him before I
> make any major decisions.
> Kind Regards
> Michelle
>
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Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.
-- John Lennon, "Beautiful Boy"
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