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| that was a miracle blessing for both of you. Sometimes in life just a few
words can make all the difference for a lifetime
Linda Jean
"Evelyn Ruut" <mama-lionsox@hvc.rr.com> wrote in message
news:q3_jf.24177$ek6.16477@news-wrt-01.rdc-nyc.rr.com...
> "Florence A" <smada@webtv.net> wrote in message
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> Never
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> The above sentence is very important. We never talked about the house to
> her because it would have only upset her. But an incident stands out in
my
> mind that I would like to share.
>
> When my mother in law had lived with us nearly two years already, we sold
> her house. We hesitated to do that initially, and thought to ourselves
> that it couldn't hurt to wait, but now I think we should've seen the
writing
> on the wall and sold it sooner.
>
> When we finally got all the mess sorted out, the junk hauled away, and all
> the stuff we wanted brought here, we hung her favorite paintings and
family
> photos in her room, and put away her "good" dishes for her granddaughter.
>
> One day she looked at the one good oil painting she had owned, and said to
> me (in a clear and totally normal tone of voice) "Something is VERY
> wrong......." It was like a miracle to hear her say this, and suddenly
> she seemed her normal self again.
>
> I replied "YES, something certainly IS wrong....you have Alzheimers
disease,
> and you live here with us now" There was a moment of clear recognition
and
> relief and she said "Is that what it is?" I said "Yes, but you don't have
> to worry about anything. We are taking care of you now, and we are going
to
> care for you as long as you need it!"
>
> She said "Oh, thank you!" in a clearly relieved way... and she looked at
me
> with 'new eyes' at that moment.
>
> I get tears in my eyes when I think of that moment, because even though
she
> was very ill at that time and was just starting to become incontinent, she
> had a moment of crystal clear sanity in which all the important
information
> was exchanged and fully understood.
>
> Others have also reported these odd moments of crystal clarity when the
> person suddenly seems to have their full understanding back, but they are
> fleeting. It is like a window in which a glimpse of the real person is
> seen. Within two minutes the moment was gone, and she was as confused as
> ever about everything.
>
> In thinking back upon it, I do not believe she understood the part about
the
> illness, but she certainly did connect with the part about us taking care
of
> her, and she was happy and grateful for that, in that moment.
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> Best Regards,
> Evelyn
>
> (to reply to me personally, remove 'sox')
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