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Author Re: Can't Convince Mom to go to Assisted Living
Florence A

2005-12-03, 11:11 am

Everyone has given you excellent advice..
Mary is always right on the ball. Just do it!
I feel your fears, I've recently gone thru them with my husband.
"What ifs" took over my waking hours.
The AL facilities are experienced and generally handle all the "what
ifs".. Ask their advice.

First I'd advise everyone to stop discussing it with Mom.. or near her.
A copy of the POA and Dr's papers are probably all you need.
Get someone, who will not fall apart at the parting, to take her &
settle her in with perhaps a see you soon attitude, enjoy your
vacation.(or whatever)

Sounds cold but it is kind..... then leave her to herself for at least a
couple of weeks..The AL facility should help her thru . Once she gets
established in the routine things will improve. She will be safe. Never
ever talk of home or what is being done about or to it unless you
absolutely "know'" she wont get upset.

Good luck & God's strength

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