| Evelyn Ruut 2005-10-06, 10:27 pm |
| <mick_476@comcast.net> wrote in message
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> Have any of you experienced a parent your taking care of trying to
> cause you to break up with someone you're seeing? My mom is trying
> everything she can to break us up because she doesn't want me to see
> anyone. She has gone as far as calling the police and lying to them so
> they come out to the house and I have to get off the phone with her.
> She has started screaming and throwing things in the house when I am
> talking to her. She is trying everything she can to make it unbearable
> for her to want to continue seeing me.
>
> I know she is understanding of what I am having to go through, but I
> am afraid there is only so much that she might take before saying
> enough is enough.
Mick, there is a strange phenomenon that alzheimer patients often go
through. They sort of live their life backwards, and all sorts of memories
from their past will come to light. She could be experiencing a delusion
that you are her boyfriend or her husband or something like that. No
amount of reminding her who you are really is going to work. She can't
remember what you tell her anyway.
You have to remember that her brain cells are dying off more every day, and
she is not at all rational anymore. You will need to get her doctor to be
aware of this behavior and perhaps some medication might be in order if she
is getting violent. You need to realize that this is an illness that makes
the person experience all sorts of things, and delusions can be horrible for
her as well as for you. It is a good thing we live in the times we do when
there ARE medications that can help. Don't hesitate to ask for some help
from her doctor.
It takes a special sort of person to deal with this illness. If you fear
your girlfriend will leave because of this, you may want to consider placing
your mom in an Assisted Living, or some other arrangement.
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Best Regards,
Evelyn
(to reply to me personally, remove 'sox')
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