| Evelyn Ruut 2005-01-27, 8:29 am |
| "Jerry's Daughter" <LesaMichelley@webtv.net> wrote in message
news:28665-41F7C300-49@storefull-3114.bay.webtv.net...
> Yes, I know I need to go to therapy re my father. I have been putting
> it off because discussing him makes me very upset, even right now. And
> yes, I know how stupid that sounds.
>
> There is only one family member besides myself that will go see Dad.
> Everyone else says "its too hard" I used to beg them to go see him, I
> gave that up a long time ago. I no longer bring him up in
> conversations and it's rare they ask about him. It's as though he is
> dead already in their minds.
>
> I haven't ever been in nursing homes before. I find myself looking
> around and asking, "is this it?" Im terrified I will end up there. I
> would rather die at an early age - I know that is a horrible thing to
> say and I can't believe I feel that way.
> My dad's life was in my hands. The thought of my son taking care of me
> if I get old, scares the living daylights out of me. I have been
> looking into long-term care insurance but so far, not able to afford it.
>
> I appreciate the advice you all have given me. Thank you.
Please keep coming here, I highly recommend it. Although everything that
lives will eventually die (including us), it can be very beautiful in the
meantime if you only choose to let it be so.
It is very upsetting to visit a loved one in the alzheimer ward, I will
grant you that truth. But it is still worth staying in touch, if only to
make sure they are being taken good care of.
My mother in law is always feeling cold. Every time we came to see her,
even though the place was warm and comfortable, she felt cold. So we made
them put a sweater on her EVERY day when she gets dressed. So that is just
one little thing they do that would not have happened had we not been
frequent visitors to make sure of her comfort.
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Regards,
Evelyn
(to reply to me personally, remove 'sox")
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