| Legend_of_53 2005-11-29, 12:54 am |
| by "kelly" <kellyb2573@gmail.com> Nov 28, 2005 at 07:34 PM
I thought changing my email to a gmail account would be a little safer
plus the hubbie was not happy when he found out I was using my regular
email address.
Just to give a little background on what I am upset about I had surgery
about two weeks ago and when I was informed that I needed to have
surgery I told the Ob/gyn doc that I have a very low pain tolerance and
my pain doc won't write meds for something he is not treating. My
ob/gyn said he understood?? The surgery went great I was very
comfortable for the week of recovery. But some how asking my obgyn to
treat the surgery pain because of my low pain tolerance it got back to
my pain doc and he told me I strong armed him I have never heard that
expression before? I guess it means forcing someone to do something.
Anyways I had a horrible day I went to see my pain doc for a follow up
and he informed me that he is going to start weaning me off of my
medications. I have mixed feelings about it I hate being dependent on a
med that I have to take every day it keeps me from be able to get
pregnant, people look down on me, say your weak, just suck it up, or it
can't be that bad, its all in your head
My pain doc said he is going to go slow with weaning but if I have any
problems he is going to put me in detox.... I am soooo upset so
basically he is telling me that I have to go back to being miserable
again. When I first started pain mgt in fl I wanted to die no one
believed me I was loosing my husband and my mind I couldn't do
anything but cry because the pain was so bad. I am so scared
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I can understand how you feel. Is the pain doc weaning you off,because he
is angry at being "strong-armed"? It's scary, just scary, how much power
doctors have over you.
When the doctor told you he didn't treat outside his own specialty, he
probably didn't even want it known that he was treating you, or at least,
the exact nature of the treatment, i.e., opiates. Your OB/Gyn probably
called him anyway, and, since the fact of his prescribing was out,
medicated you accordingly, hence the "very comfortable" part of this
experience. (in-patient hospital care is often very uncomfortable).
So, this detox, and everything-is it to be a complete detox, or just down
to the level it was before surgery? If complete, had you discussed it
before? Is it something you want?(it sounds like you have mixed feelings
about taking pain meds).
I take that back. I re-read what you wrote, and it's obvious that he's
"spanking" you for telling the other doctor on you. Unless detox has been
discussed before, I'd get a second opinion, and, if he was effective and
pleasant to be around at all, go to the other doc, even if his decision is
also to do a complete detox. If you're in pain, you're NOT to be
considered a junkie, the word you have probably been avoiding.
Quitting to have a child is another issue (that's why I suggested that you
write me privately the other day-you might have felt embarrassed to talk to
a bunch of guys...) Of course, the fewer drugs you take, the better. But
don't think that just because a drug is potentially addictive, it's
essentially more dangerous. Vioxx and Bextra were taken off the market,
while many narcotics remain.
I really can't advise you medically-concerning specific medicines-but that
one pain doc is a good one to lose. You're a grown woman, and don't need a
"spanking". If he wanted to be secretive, he shouldn't have gone into pain
management. I know, finances, insurance, location, and many other things
may make it difficult to make a change. But I hope it's possible-I know I
ask a lot of questions, but it's just to keep my mind at nearest to peak
performance. But, please, don't let anyone shame you-if you do a complete
detox, make sure it's what's best for YOU. Be gentle, but firm, with
family members. It's true, many just don't understand. Too bad. But I'm
betting on you to think t out, and afterwards, to do the best-for YOU!!
The only person who should ever take precedence is your unborn child-if
you are able, and decide, to have him/her.
-Legend
P.S.-Maybe it would also help to see a shrink or therapist. He may help
you understand your feelings about all these things floating around in
your mind-your surgery, pain, pain management, your marriage, having
children, not having children-plus,You probably have hundreds more issues,
that you haven't expressed-some you might not even be aware of.
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