| jakethespake2@yahoo.com 2006-11-19, 4:45 pm |
| =Julia Set= wrote:
> Just out of interest, do you think you would've said "go away little
> girl" if she had identified herself as being sixteen? I'm wondering
> because from what little you've told us, you were meant to be
> together. I know it's difficult to answer the question because our
> opinions and feelings about previous events change over time.
> Actually, I'm wondering now how you'd have felt if one of your
> grandchildren was in the same situation.
I most certainly would have told her to "go away" (with the option to
return later as an adult). At that time I was in the military and
wouldn't have wanted to put my then career at risk.
As for my grandchildren, It wouldn't be up to me. It's up to my
daughters to pursue such matters in accordance with the law that
governs their place of residency. I don't think I'd like it but my
feelings have no bearing on the law.
> Where in the world are you because I had always assumed that sixteen
> was the age of consent when it came to sex?
I was in the US military and don't know what the legal consenting age
was at that time for people in that occupation. We always assumed
eighteen. America is an extremely eighteen oriented society culturally
and in some states a relationship with anyone under that age is a high
crime punishable by many years in prison.
> Part of me
> believes that a consenting adult is a consenting adult yet another
> part, probably the mother part of me finds it disturbing when a
> significantly older male has a relationship with a person who has just
> reached age of consent.
That's the life of males. A male is regarded a glamorous exciting
being if he dates someone 25 years older than him but a horrible
"disturbing" being if he dates someone 15 years younger.
I think males are use to that one and don't notice that anymore. That's
the way it was 40 years ago and will probably always be. I think all
males ask of women is that they remember that women also fall in love
with younger people from time to time as do women who are lesbians. If
you fell in love with an 18 yaer old, would you want society to
automatically vilify you without any regard to who you are in the
inside? Probably not.
The "male" fixation of damnation some women have isn't really fair to
males who often just looking for a spouse not a victim.
Love doesn't always cater to society's love script (probably because
its blind).
In a world where some couples are 25 years in difference, 14 years
ended up not amounting to much as time went on.
be well and merry.
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