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Re: SQ -- a long dissertation for you on aar relationships, bashing, flames and ok..
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| hornpipe 2004-12-27, 7:06 am |
| On Fri, 24 Dec 2004 19:49:54 -1000, astri <astri@lava.net> wrote:
>On Fri, 24 Dec 2004, hornpipe wrote:
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>ya know... it's pretty constantly suggested that it's not a reasonable idea
>to try to define someone else's experience, especially when talking about
>trying to define someone's experiences as either abusive or not. i think
>that reasonableness standard holds whether someone identifies hirself as a
>survivor, or not.
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>it is supreme hubris to suggest that someone is hiding something grand from
>hirself and you know better than hir what hir life is and was like.
>different people have different temperaments and different life experiences.
>the various combinations of those 2 factors make up the person-as-is.
>experiences affect people differently depending on their innate
>temperaments.
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I wasn't trying to define SQ's experience or etc, or say that SQ is
hiding something "grand" from himself. I'm just homing in on his
statement "My life is such a beautiful thing that I doubt I could
carry bitterness." because I don't think *anybodies* life could be
that beautiful. So I *think* that in saying so SQ is hiding something
from himself.
Nothing more than that, in this instance, tho' there are other issues
between SQ and myself, that's for certain.
--
hornpipe
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